by Carrie Brandon

Created on: March 19, 2009

The boomerang boyfriend - that one guy you want when you know you can't have him and the one guy who always shows up just when your moving on. Yes ladies we all have a boomerang boyfriend at some point in our lives. The guy you meet and hit it off with, have a great 6 months with before someone new catches his eye and he's off ...only to come crawling back to you a few months later when he realises " he missed you" or " he didn't realise what you had until he through it away". So you forgive him, take him back, maybe you genuinely believe it'll work. And so begins your pattern. You date, you split , you date , you split , you date , you split.. and before you know it 2 years have passed and your still effectively at square one with this guy - you've no long term relationship to speak of , you never know where you stand and yet you can't quite seem to give him up. He offers excitement. Thrills. You've become addicted to him and have accepted his ways as the norm. You know deep down that it's no kind of relationship to have with anyone yet when he comes knocking ... you answer.

There comes a time when dealing with a boomerang boyfriend where you have to take a step back and ask yourself " is this really what I want?". Never feeling secure in your relationship, never knowing true intimacy, never really being happy, always waiting for the day when he leaves you again.. because make no mistake. He will. And you'll let him. Because that's what you do. That's how your relationship works.They say old habits die hard.... Well I say change your habits. Don't let this one relationship define how your future relationships will be.You need to take a step back and look at the relationship objectively and you'll see that its a toxic one that is in most cases going no-where. You need to take a step back and realise your worth more than that. You need to take a step back and end things before another 2 years pass by. And how do I know?... Because I spent two years and countless tears with a boomerang boyfriend.

I was always a girl who swore that I'd never let a man walk all over me. Then I met Mark , my ex. He didn't just walk all over me. He stomped on me from every angle possible. When we first met , we where happy. 7 months later, we split up. And that should have been it. He told me he didn't love me anymore and I was heart-broken. We agreed to "stay friends" which really translated to " we'll stay exactly as we are right now , in a sort of relationship but without the commitment

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