by Leeann Heffernan

Created on: March 17, 2009

Love.

Many people of today's society are under the influence that they are very much so in love. What they aren't aware of is what love really is. Would they really die for that person? Would they really give up everything for that person? Most people would jump with yes as their answer. But if you really sat there and thought about it, you lived most of your life without this person. Could you live without them? If you date someone for a year, it may seem like a long time to you both, but in reality; its nothing. Than after the hole nasty breakup you resent each other. Was it really love? No, not even close. There really is no defining love, but some are better at defining it than others (mostly people who have been in love). How do you know when you are in love? Or is there really anyway of knowing? I guess you will really have to ask yourself deep down if you could live without this person.

50% of marriages are ending in divorce. Do you think it would have anything to do with the number of the population who get married under the age of 25? Really the question is; what is the rush? You have the rest of your life to be married. Teenagers/ young adults just want to grow up way to fast without actually taking on the responsibility of a marriage. They don't understand the concept of saying 'I do'. When they say that, it is a promise, an oath. It shouldn't be thought of as a decision they can 'un-do' later on. You can't just go around thinking ' I can get divorced if I want to.' Remember when marriage was special? The hole family came and everyone gathered in a church for a ceremony? Wedding bells and songs, and the bride was walked down the aisle by her Father? Long white dresses and tuxedos. Well now people don't have a problem with going somewhere tropical (even if there family can't afford to come along) and get married just the two of them. Weddings just don't seem to be a huge deal anymore. People get out of high school and get engaged to someone they dated for 3 years in high school and then end up hating and resenting that person. Marriage isn't always good times, it has its rough times too, but it should never lose its love nonetheless.

Love; Especially, devoted attachment to, or tender or passionate affection for, one of the opposite sex. How do you know when you have actually felt love? Does it feel good? Do you always want to be with that person? To be honest, love can hurt more than any pain you have ever felt. 'You can't help who you love' is this true? Or is this an image/show that we put on so people think we are in total control of our love lives? You can only help who you love to a certain extent and then your heart leads the way. You may think the person isn't right for you or even if that person doesn't love you back, there will always be that empty spot in your heart that aches and longs for that person to love you back. So ask yourself, in your relationship could you live with this person? Or do you need to find that person you can't live without?

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