by Dagny Roth

Created on: March 17, 2009   Last Updated: March 18, 2009

For many men romance is an unnatural and disingenuous action in which they tend to overcomplicate a simplistic idea. Let me share some insights on romance. Men, do you often feel caught up in the pleasing aspect of dating? So much you forget to be yourself. It is a difficult balance. How do you treat your date to something creative, new, and make her feel like you are prince charming without wearing a mask? Here are some foolproof ways to be romantic on a date WITHOUT being overly clich or phony

1. BE YOURSELF. This may not sound romantic. I am not suggesting taking her to a strip club or a car chasing, gun slinging flick and ordering you nachos without asking her what she wants. I am saying, don't try and fool her by being someone you are not. Call her up, discuss the date in advanced. Find out what she likes and if you don't like the same things joke about it but say hey, I am willing to try for you. A good gauge of a relationship is to do something you may detest and if you almost like it well hey, maybe they are the one! She will appreciate your candor and the fact you cared enough to ask her.

2. BE CREATIVE. Try to avoid the clich' romantic gestures such as flowers or chocolates. Instead how about making a collage of cut out flowers or paper Mache'd flowers? Hand them to her and say I didn't want to be clich'. How about planning a fun date which doesn't involve the typical go to dinner, go to a movie, etc. Plan a picnic somewhere pretty and peaceful (have a friend arrange it for you so it is all set up when you arrive?) Roast marshmallows or maybe go behind her back and invite her friends to come with you? Men assume women are looking for them to wow them with money and things when in realitywhat we really want is for men to just make an effort. Put thought into your planning and show us you are willing to take time.

3. SHOW INTEREST. Women need to talk and share. It is the mans job to listen and eventually the woman will come around to discuss who you are. If you ask a lot of questions about her interests, background, hopes, dreams, etc. You have already begun to win her heart. A girl wants you to take an interest in her. Especially these days the female sex wants to know you're in it for more than a hop in the sack. Invest time in knowing her and you will be rewarded. Also, pay attention to the smallest detail. Notice how she acts; is she nervous? Can you make her feel more comfortable. Say something embarrassing just to help her feel more confident. She

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