by Carol G

Created on: March 17, 2009   Last Updated: March 18, 2009

Lust is a wonderful, sensual experience. The feeling of being swept away by a warm, melting sensation identifies a lustful moment. This kind of powerful magnetism may or may not become part of a long lasting love relationship. Lust itself is a kind of love, but there's no stability in a lust relationship without other practical day to day love connections.

A few other love factors to consider are emotional understanding, communication, and cultural background. The problem with lust being in the picture is that somehow it shrouds the ability to think clearly.

In effect, it takes time to determine if the lust will evolve into a long term love relationship.

Spending time talking reveals if the communication factor will play a part of the connection. Not having a good communication aspect should show up early on. Do you misconstrue times to meet, or confuse plans that have been put together? Are there often times when you feel that your love interest has made a statement that you think means one thing, but later find out that it wasn't what you thought? Or do you start talking and get interrupted by the lust factor distraction?

Keep on making a sustained effort on communication, and put the lust aside every now an then if what you want is lasting love. In an on going love affair, illness and other events may come along where sex is not part of the picture.

Crossing over a cultural gap presents everyday difficulties of understanding. When you have similar cultural backgrounds, the ability to assume certain things lends comfort to a love relationship. To paraphrase D.H. Lawrence - going against the mainstream brings unpeacefulness to your life. At the very least, the cultural difference requires an extra thrust with the communication in order to help a love survive the bumpy road of cross cultural differences.

Emotional consideration creates a soothing balm between two people.

A person's emotional make up is an individual part of the personality. Looking into this aspect is important so that two people can love each other for who they are. Usually, people don't change in the way they react to things emotionally, and it wouldn't be wise to think that changing the other person will create a love relationship that lasts.

It's easy to see where there's emotional compatibility that can encompass both lust and love

Your love interest can feel like a friend and a lover all at once. Both lovers will tend to share friends easily because they will usually like and or dislike the same people. If one person keeps friends that the other one hates, this is a red flag to lack of emotional compatibility.

Love and lust together is a possibility as long as both lovers can look, and truthfully assess the entire love connection.

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