by Robert Guphito

Created on: March 17, 2009

Soul mate can be defined as people who have a way of thinking the same, have the same feelings with us. Close together will feel comfortable, though far apart if needed will always say "I am beside you". Two people who will always help each other in a complicated problem even. But this criteria is too high.

Basically, if you are able to give love without conditions and can eliminate ego to accept your pair with all the advantages and disadvantages, it means you have found your soul mate.

Soul mate is a mystery, full of puzzles. Can come and go, not eternal. Soul mate will be lasting only if treated continuously, but one is certain, all the confidential property of God. But not a soul mate that is determined from the Lord, and we find it. Too many myths exaggerate someone will search her or his soul mate, that only one person only. Soul mate is "being the right person," more reasonable than "find the right person."

For example, there are three girls and a young man. The first girl can not like this man, he does not feel there is a match and disturbed. Second girl has a different feeling, the man does not disrupt her feeling, funny and quite enjoyable. However, for the third girl, the man is someone who is great, the quiet in his heart he said: "This is the man that I choose!" What the cause is different? In fact there is only a young man the same, but why he raises a different reaction on the third girl was? Is not this was due to meet the needs of young girls in the third, and does not meet the needs of girls in the first or the second? The man will be the right person for the third girls.

Belief that "there is only one course" for you, will only make you hesitate to make yourself the right person that is expected of others. How can we know the "one person" is? one that not one person who has been there for us, but we have to make one for us. Of the process, not instant. We know many people, making friends, and socialize with everyone, surely the time will come we know anyone who is like us. Selection of those who love us. Be not silent to look forward for one, two or five years to have the "one that" comes in our lives. The term "only one course" is hogwash! In fact, the more people that we like, the more people that like us, and clearly the more opportunity to select a soul mate or a marriage partner (if you agree to the marriage bond), which give happiness. So it is not enough just to find, more we make it .....

They find a soul mate and took him or her in marriage, certainly will be happy. To have a partner, we are perfect (it does not mean that choosing celibate is not perfect, just a different way through life). Rama meaningless without Sita ( The Ramayana Epic ), as well as vice versa. Living with soul mate will be more beautiful. But it does not mean soul mate is to be perfect. Nothing wrong with a pair that looks neat. Handsome husband, beautiful wife, with the background and the same degree. But not too wrong if one of them look less perfect. Remember soul mate is a mystery!

Imagine if soul mate should be so perfect and harmonious, how the world will not colorful by stories, the challenge will be empty, empty will be caring, have a life that is just boring. Aren't we created to complete our couple's weakness?

I concluded that we will know who our soul mate after many approaches to other people. Film "Definitely Maybe could be one of the your inspiration. Despite soul mate is not always suitable in some cases, but trust ... the best thing in our life is the one who love you what you are .... no matter what ...

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