by Byuzand Ajaryan

Created on: March 17, 2009   Last Updated: March 18, 2009

No, the wedding should not be recorded.

You know, majority will be surprised at this and say hey, why the hell should we not record it? They will say these words in a tone and face as if I said that the sun is just big light bulb. As if our ancestors had no happy lives without recording it. They will say that the idea of video recording of the wedding comes to us from ancient civilizations, they will even tell me strictly (with a finger pointed upwards) that even our father Adam had its wedding recorded with Eve? They will tell us that wedding recordings were found in pyramids of Egypt, In Noah's Arc, in China's Great Wall, etc... Reasons? We must do it for that and that, ah also for that (long list here by the way).

But primarily, they say we must record it so that when we grow older, we can watch it and with tears in our eyes see how young we were, how energetic and smiling all the time, how good we kissed and hugged and cried. This seems good eh? Who can suspect anything here, any hidden psychological bombs which will explode in due time, any feelings of missing, any pains...?

And there it goes, all over again. Every year, every five years, decades. Time comes when we see some blurred figures on a white something, that is our vision grew dim? And what. Will that help us, will that comfort us and help to overcome the stress of realising that the time grows short, we get older and older and soon the end will come. Will that help us in thinking that it will never ever come back. There will be no second time. And surely there will be people on the video, who by the time we see them next time will not be among us any more. They would be gone, but their images, their smiles, their hugs and toasts are there. And what feelings will they arise in us? May be feelings that the same thing awaits us?

What if a couple being wed, divorces in time, what will happened to recording. Will be it deleted, will it be thrown in a big box what bundles of some other unnecessary things only to be lifted to the attic and stays there for God know how long. What it completely strange people will watch this recording. What feelings will they have. What if children will watch it, what will they think, will they notice how old their parent became, or may be they will try to imitate everything...

And soon we will realize that instead of watching the video per se and enjoying it, we would be engulfed in sad thoughts. Desperation will be waiting behind the screen to haunt us still long periods after we finished watching the video. So is not this enough to hint and advice us on one sure thing - IT IS BETTER NOT TO RECORD OUR WEDDING THAT TO RECORD. Why? For practical reasons and here are they in short: Instead of giving joy and bringing good thoughts, they will sooner or later bring negative thoughts to us and remind us constantly that the past is gone forever and the same sweet things will never happened to us. They are gone forever.

So it is up to you to do it or not, dear reader. But mind my advice - the best place to record it is you own memory for it is with you forever.

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