by Passion Whylie

Created on: March 16, 2009

Great question! Many people have different views on what is considered cheating and what is not considered cheating. This is an on going battle between the sexes because women will view cheating different than men will. This should be very interesting to analyze. There are many ways a person can deceive you in a relationship and there are many forms of cheating that people are not aware of.

If you are dating a person and the two of you have decided to be in a monogamous relationship, you owe it to the other person to be honest with them and explain in great detail what it is you are looking for in the relationship. Communication is the key to many things in a relationship. People would not feel deceived if the other person was honest with them from the beginning and told them their true feelings.

One way deception can take place in a relationship is true lies. Many people are not aware that lies are a form of deception. It does not matter if you are married to the person or is dating the person. If a person tells you that they love you and can't wait to marry you and when the time comes they accuse you of too much pressure when in reality they was the one to bring it up. This would fall under the category of deception. If a man tell a woman that he wants her to be solo to him and convinces her to not date anyone else aware that he is not ready for a serious relationship but from fear of losing the woman he leads her on to think that he does, is definitely deception. It is not fair to another person to convince them to be in a serious relationship with you knowing that you have no intentions of taking the relationship serious is wrong. The man does not want her to know that he really wants a open relationship because he fears that she might meet someone else. Another form of deception is, when a woman tells her husband or boyfriend that she is over her ex-boyfriend and has no contact with him at all, she then calls him to go out to dinner or calls him when she misses him. Any time a person in a relationship does something behind the other person's back is deception.

Cheating can be a little different to identify. I think if two people are in a serious relationship or married should not go out on dates with other people. If your spouse does not know about the dinner, it's cheating. If you have phone sex with someone other than your spouse, it's cheating. If you are on the internet communicating with other people sexually, it's cheating. If you kiss someone else, it's cheating and of course if you have sexual intercourse, it's cheating. If you do not discuss this desire to be with another person with your spouse and offer the other person the option to leave the relationship, it's cheating.

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