by Todd Daigneault

Created on: March 16, 2009

It certainly happens...sometimes people throw caution to the wind and get naked. Forgive the crude metaphor. Certainly sex happens on the first date. Emotions and hormones sometimes run high-people are very strongly in the mood and want sex. However, in the vast majority of first dates, it doesn't happen. The first date is usually about exploring the possibilities of a relationship, a getting to know you period. Unless the chemistry and connection between the two is very strong, the first date is usually about questions, answers and maybe a slight easing of tensions.

In an era of date rape, HIV/STD sexual disease transmissions, obssession, stalking and other nasty things that can accompany the male-female romantic experience, the first date is generally about parameters until both sides have a degree of comfort to take it to the next level, if even that. Sometimes one or the other potential partner may have just come off a bad break-up, and may be very 'gun-shy' about another potential relationship so soon after the first one. For most part, the first date is about playing it safe, being careful-with an eye open towards the future.

When sex does happen on a first date, it can sometimes spoil the potential of a relationship by something happening way too soon. In most cases, people are aware of that and opt to be careful on that pivotal first date. The third date rule is considered the standard before sex can happen. But certainly not in every case, and is known to have wide time swings. It's when a level of comfort is established. Sometimes males move too quickly, sometimes females do. The intimacy can feel great and lead to a long-term relationship. But in a lot of cases, without the solidity of a strong relationship behind it, it can lead to unanswered emails and phone calls.

Invariably, the talk comes about the other partner needing time alone to deal with their lives, their problems and relationships. Even worse, there are times when nothing is ever said...silence runs supreme. Sex on a first date is fine if that is all that you may wish. But good relationships generally took a little bit longer to nurture, to grow into something more substantial Even with the sex, sometimes partners rush into something far too quickly and the relationships dies on the vine. But relationships were never known to be easy and smooth in the first place. However, if all works out well, so beautiful and absolutely pleasurable through the sex, the intimacy and companionship.

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