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To survive any relationship you must have the ability to compromise. No two people are ever the same. We all have different needs in a relationship. If you take the time to talk things through, you will have less disagreements.

When your relationship is new. Everything is Rosy. You are on your best behaviour. The first few dates are all about getting to know each other. You find out each others interests, and hobbies. What kind of films they like, what music their into. In fact you talk to each other all the time. But the best thing is you both listen to each other.

So what happens a few years down the line. When you've been married for what seems like a lifetime. The familiarity sets in and we stop talking, and worse still we stop listening. We take each other for granted. The butterflies of excitement you used to feel when getting ready for that date are now non existent. You no longer take hours to get ready. Instead you just take a few minutes to throw something on .

So what do you do to survive. To get back the spark that you know is still there. Maybe its just not shining so bright at the moment. You have just fallen into the trap of boredom. Every relationship hits this at some stage. The trick is knowing when its happened and fixing it.

To start with make a date with your partner. If you have children, book the babysitter. Go to a place where you used to go when you started dating. Then just relax and talk. Talk about everything you are feeling. Let each other have their say, and above all listen. You will surprise yourselves at how out of touch you have become.

To survive in any relationship you have to have communication. Without it you wont get very far. Be prepared to compromise with each other. Little acts of thoughtfulness, like a bunch of flowers for no reason at all except to say I love you. Or helping with the house work, or cooking dinner.

Do things together as much as possible. You will grow closer and be able to survive the down times. Everyone has them at some stage in their relationship. Remember when you first started your relationship. Talk about the things you were both doing at the time. Go over old photographs. The memories will keep your love alive. Sit down together and watch your wedding video. You will soon get the flame of love glowing brightly again.

Try a new activity that you can do together. There are lots of clubs out there you can join. If you both like walking join a ramblers club. These can be great fun. It also gives you both the opportunity to meet new friends. If you both enjoy dancing. Then you could go to classes and learn a new dance together.

There are so many people giving up on relationships. When all that was needed was a little time to talk to each other. Keep open the communication and above all listen to each other.

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