by Fantasia Harrington

Created on: March 16, 2009

DICTIONARY THERAPY

What exactly is a RELATIONSHIP? Well according to the dictionary it is, "A significant connection or similarity between two or more things, or the state of being related to something else" Well what the hell happened to the connection in my marriage?! In the beginning we related, connected and had sex every day of the week. Now we disagree, disconnect the phone and watch porno's. But I love this man and he loves me, maybe we don't know what love is? Well according to the dictionary LOVE has many definitions and the one I agree with is " an intense feeling of positive emotion toward, or enjoyment of, a person or thing, especially strong romantic or sexual feelings between people."

Well the only thing between my husband and I are over sized body pillows, that create a solid barrier. How did we get here? This damn dictionary says that HOPE is " To want or expect something: to have a wish to get or do something or for something to happen or be true, especially something that seems possible or likely". Well I want the relationship we had back, I expected our marriage to last, I wish he would stop snoring, and if this hope I have fails; divorce is possible or likely!

Wow! Heres a definition that is probably considered holy in relationships, "The exchange of information between people, by means of speaking, writing, or using a common system of signs or behavior". Well we speak loudly over one another, we write nasty refrigerator notes, and our sign of behavior would most likely be compared to wild animals. That's one problem; we have no COMMUNICATION.

This RELATIONSHIP started with LOVE, but now it's running on HOPE and our COMMUNICATION is lost in translation. I think tonight we should remove the body pillows and make a decision about the rest of our life.

(This is poetry written by me, someone who has never been married, but I have been in love. I hope it makes sense and creates a series of thoughts needed to save someone's marriage. Take time and weigh the pros and cons of your union. People grow and change with time, which can create a gap between two people. If you feel your union is worth saving, then it probably is? Try and separate the outside opinion without disregarding it totally. Sometimes people can see things you may not, but they are not in the marriage. In a perfect world everything would last, we are far from perfect. Thank you for taking time to read this article.)

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