by Kaye Boss

Created on: March 15, 2009

If you're reading this article clearly you're confused. Perhaps you are looking for guidance in your own relationship or trying to reel in a new woman. I may not be able to promise you a happy relationship but what I can do is decode the mystery of women (as I myself am a woman).

It's taken me several minutes to sit down and plan out what I wanted to write in this article. What is it that I found most important to tell you? Did I want to list for you the ten things that I want you to know about me and what I feel you should know. Maybe, but it wouldn't justify the point that I'm trying to make. So then what? Attack the women that will try to squeeze every last drip of money out of your wallet and convince you to shower them with cheesiness and attention? No, that would be rude. Instead I will combine both philosophies into one.

I've read the other articles posted. I've read what the other women are telling you. Although it may be true that they want you to know it. You should at least know that the world is not so black and white. You can find a decent girl that looks attractive without having to empty out your wallet or buy a gun.

I have been in a successful relationship now for a few years and in order to answer this question for you, to show you that it is possible to be happy with a woman and have a successful relationship without sacrificing yourself I wrote down the ten things that I would share with my boyfriend. The ten things that I want him to know about me and our relationship.

If you can find a girlfriend that will have these same things for you then you have achieved the greatest success in respects to love.

Here is my list for my boyfriend:

10) I can try to drop things that are bothering me, but I can't promise that I won't think about them from time to time. Please have patience.

9) When you ask me what's wrong and I say "nothing" just leave it and let me come to you when I'm ready. Sometimes it is hard to put things into words. Sometimes I'm just moody.

8) I believe in equality in a relationship- on all forms. I don't believe in gender roles for the household.

7) I do not have expectations for you. I appreciate your help with things if you're offering it. Otherwise, that's your choice.

6) I like to learn from you. I may not know much about cars but I'm a great listener and a quick learner. Give me a chance.

5) I don't expect you to always look good. In fact, I would love you even if you didn't look good at all. (But of course, you do look attractive to me).
4) I want you to be happy. If you want to play video games or play guitar then go ahead, enjoy yourself!

3) I will not spend my life trying to change you. I respect you and I want you to have the freedom to be who you want to be.

2) I know that you are tough but everyone has bad days. You can always confide in me. Your secrets are truly safe with me.

1) I love you.

If you don't have this- keep looking. It's out there. Just ask my boyfriend.

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