by Grant Mckenzie

Created on: March 14, 2009

The best love letter is one the simply speaks the truth. Whether your relationship has weathered the storms that come with a life together or you are just beginning to feel the tickle of excitement new love brings, an honest love letter will always be well received. For those who have fallen into the blissful trance of new love, it is sometimes difficult to know what is true about the way you feel, which makes it difficult to write a love letter that expresses what it should.

Before you begin writing, sit with a piece of paper and a pen and describe how you feel. Using a paper and pen makes this exercise personal, because you are putting your feelings into your handwriting. There will most likely be some sexual feeling involved as you do this, as physical desire is usually a companion to new love.
If that is the case, focus on the feelings that are driving the desire. Words like "desire," "longing," and "passion" are more appropriate than the more crude sexual terminology.

Once you are satisfied that your feelings are accurately reflected on the paper in front of you, use it to put your letter together. Start with why you are writing in the first place. You obviously chose this method of communication over e-mail, telephone, or text message for a reason. Why did you decide to make this kind of effort? The fact that you did will be appreciated, but knowing why will be even more so.

Now that you have told your love why you decided to write a letter, write down how you feel about that person. Keep the focus on the other person and avoid references to your own character traits.
Telling your love that you like the way they admire your perfect hair will not create the effect you desire. Be specific with this. Think about specific things they have done and compliment them by telling them how you enjoyed it. For example, "I loved the way the sunlight reflected off your hair that night we stood out on the pier at sunset," or "I was walking on air when we walked through your old neighborhood and you were telling me stories about when you were a kid."

Finish the letter by telling your love what you what your future together to look like. This could be a simple as looking forward to the next date or the next decade and beyond. Be sure to add in why you want it to look that way. "I am so looking forward to next week when we go to the movies.
I love the feel of your hair against my cheek when you lay your head on my shoulder" works much better than "See ya next week!"

The key to an effective love letter is to be personal and intimate. Be honest, both with your love and with yourself and don't write something you don't truly feel. Keep the focus on your love and why you feel the way you do. Keep "desire" in, but keep "sex" out. If you do these things, the words you use will always be the right words because the will represent the "real you," the one your love fell for to begin with.

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