by Kristine Lockhart

Created on: March 13, 2009   Last Updated: May 26, 2009

My husband and I celebrated our forty-second wedding anniversary not too long ago. We married with the idea of having a Christian life together and raising a family according to scripture. I had been raised in a Christian home, and I became a Christian at the age of nine. My husband on the other hand was not raised in a Christian home, but he became a Christian at age seventeen.

We met at a church function, for our youth, ten months prior to our marriage.

He was the only beau I ever had or dated in my life. I wasn't his first girl, but I got to be his last. Our first baby was born one year, one month and two days after our wedding day. This was the most precious time of our lives, so far. This precious little boy, baby was ours. We went on and had three more children, two girls and another boy.

Early on we'd decided to base our marriage upon the Biblical concept of marriage, which places the husband as the head of the home and his wife his helpmate. This has worked very well for us. I was accustomed to this type of marriage, but my husband wasn't. The scriptures have been his teacher, and he has succeeded in bringing up a fine family.

It is not easy to be subservient to anyone. But there are rewards. When a wife decides to be a helpmate to her man she is telling him he is her protector and provider. He needs his wife's cooperation to be the best husband and father to his family. A man has the eternal ego. His wife can feed this bird so he lives a productive life. If she fails at feeding it they will both suffer. The ego motivates a man and helps him to have a good self image, which in turn helps him take care of his family in a way no other human factor can. When a man is constantly knocked down by his wife he becomes a follower instead of a leader. He lets his wife run the show; let's face it, one person or the other has to run the marriage. In the Biblical perspective the 50/50 way to shoulder the responsibility in marriage is unprincipled, because it doesn't work, in my opinion, not the way a family is supposed to work.

It is important for the wife to help her husband so he can be the man God intended him to be. God put the man over the woman, and the woman over the children, as Christ is over the church. God intended, through his plan, for marriage to be the backbone of our country. Again this is my opinion, but our nation lost its backbone when its women began wearing the pants in the family. Our families are in a lot of trouble and divorce is running rampant.

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