by Catherine Graham

Created on: March 13, 2009   Last Updated: March 15, 2009

For twenty years, I lived a life that was full of regrets, full of could have, should have and would have beens. I had given up opportunities, and settled for less than what I was worth on too many occasions.

By the time I was twenty three, my heart was bombarded with negative thoughts towards myself, others, and the world around me. As a mother of three at this point in my life, I had a feeling that I was living for everyone else but myself. It seemed as though I was constantly trying to please, trying to nurture, trying to care for everyone else but myself.

It was during this time that I started my own journey into self exploration, spirituality and self help. To my surprise, I wasn't the only person out there who felt I just wasn't living life the way I was supposed to. I decided in those months that it was my time to live for myself, with no regrets.

For many, this is a very strong statement to make, and quite often sounds very selfish. Many people expect that we are to look out for our loved ones, our neighbours, our families, and then take care of ourselves. In fact, it's quite opposite. When we nurture ourselves, care for ourselves and please ourselves, we can then reach out and help others achieve the same. It is our own responsibility, and not that of anyone else, to have all that we are required to have. It doesn't matter if this means dessert every night after supper, or meditation every morning before waking the rest of the house up.

If you could be anywhere, do anything right now in this moment, would it be the same as you are right now? Would you be switching jobs, finding a new life partner, travelling or picking up a new hobby?

Whatever your answer, if it is not the same as what you are doing right now, then what is stopping you? Is it a lack of money, a fear of leaving what's comfortable, or a fear of failure or success?

We all come up with excuses for not bettering our lives and our spirits. For many years, I feared success, and failure at the same time. I didn't apply for jobs that I thought I lacked the education, and I remained married to a man who wasn't a healthy influence in my life, because I believed I didn't deserve any better.

The fact of the matter is, we are all created from divinity, which means we are divine. Whatever your dreams are, whatever your hopes and desires, you can have them, and live in a life with no regrets, by simply letting go of your excuses, and aligning yourself with all that your heart wants.

You never know what moment will be your last, so it is best to live as though they are all your last!

Until next time, live love and love life.

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