The Burden of the Female heart,
Inbuilt into all human beings are the basic needs for love, acceptance, and understanding. These requirements are especially intense in the Female of the species.
The life's breath of a woman is her sensitivity; as it is the very language that she speaks. Armed with great emotional capacity, and compassion, it is the female that is ultimately responsible for progression of the human race, despite man's savage nature. Throughout history, Women have been there, encouraging, sharing, nurturing, and even restraining at times, as she has saved man from himself on more than one occasion.
In Humankind's primitive past, it was the Female who first developed higher reasoning abilities. To protect herself, and her young, the prehistoric woman quickly learned to mate, and form a bond with the most brutal, and dominate Alfa-males, as this action would guard against being attacked, or even eaten by other males. Thus began what we would loosely refer to as family, and community. All other societal structures evolved from this.
However, in modern times, attaching herself to Dominate males has not always benefited the female creature known as " Woman". Cruel insecure Male controllers have done tremendous damage, both physically, and emotionally, creating a Female that will not allow herself to feel anything at all. And for a woman not to be able to engage her heart, this is a fate worst than death. But more often than not, the cry of the Female heart has lead her down the path of degradation, as she will give the object of her affection exactly want he needs, someone to inflict pain upon. The controller seeks to hurt, and the victim wants to be punished, this is a very distorted, dysfunctional, and backwards expression of love.
There are no words to truly describe how it feels, when a Woman's heart dances with love. It is like a ferocious, super addictive drug that grabs onto every cell in her body, and screams for more. But as the heart of a woman is her greatest strength, it can also be her downfall.
The mind thinks, and the heart feels, it is just that simple, and to a woman, the desire of her heart must be fulfilled, no matter the cost. This is one explanation as to why so many very intelligent Females engage in very destructive relationships with " bad boy" men. Her brain will tell her " this man is a loser, he is terrible for me", and her heart will fiercely defend itself by saying" I LOVE HIM!" " No matter how badly he treats me!" To the female heart, negative attention is better than no attention at all. And so begins the burden of the female heart.
Times have changed, and so has the role of Woman. She now finds herself not only the caretaker, but also the " hunter gatherer\ provider". Assuming the Male function has been very confusing, and alien to the modern Female, as she has been forced to think and behave like a man, she must become something she is not. It is like having a cat become a dog, or a tree become a stone. Where women once held the exclusive position of taking care of their men, and children, she must now compete directly against males for her own survival, and with this, a great mistrust, and even underlying hostility has developed between the two sexes.
Driven by her past effected emotions, she starts to lose who she is, by dressing a certain way, behaving a certain way, tolerating abuse, and denying her true nature, just to be accepted by lovers, friends, co-workers, etc. She self justifies the negative transformation she is undergoing, by saying to herself " He will appreciate me for all I am sacrificing someday", or " I must be this way, if I am to keep this job". All the while, her self-esteem pays a hefty price.
As the modern Woman continues to lie to her self, just to fit in, to be loved, and understood. The best part of her becomes diminished day by day. Then it is only a matter of time before she completely turns her back on the magnificent gift she once was. Now all relationships are a train wreck waiting to happen, and fear of disappointment, and hurt, stains all opportunities for growth. When enough time passes, she will no longer recognize whom she sees in the mirror. All this, to address the needs of the female heart. She would sell her God given soul, if it meant following her heart!
But the modern Woman is far from being at the mercy of her childlike heart. As she most certainly can have her hearts fill, and retain her self worth at the same time. Modern Women tend to search for validation, by receiving love from others. What today's female needs to understand is that love, and acceptance cannot be sustainable if she only seeks it from others, and her environment. The strong sensation she gets from her heart to seek affection, and validation is really just fascination\fixation. As love, and obsession feel virtually the same to a Woman's heart.
The concept of " self-love" must now be introduced into the Female equation. She has to learn to draw the line between giving to others, and giving to her self. It is in the Female's nature to give, and to share, but she must not deplete herself in the process. When the act of giving itself becomes too one sided, it is no longer giving, it is taking!
It is the burden of women to suffer for the needs of their hearts, but this is what makes the Female such a precious, and unique being! This is why Females occupy a higher spiritual existence, than their male counter parts. If truth were told, most women would not regret living thru their hearts for one moment, as it is one hell of a roller coaster ride!
God bless the modern woman, she must never forget that she is a priceless jewel in the crown of the King, of Kings!