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Can you overcome family riffs, marriage troubles, difficulties in school or financial troubles through communication? You can if you use sincerity and patience to develop trust. Reaching out to people in your life is the beginning of communicating to overcome difficulty.

Calling or emailing a relative when least expected can have a powerful effect if the message and the action are fully sincere.

"Jane, hi, I just thought I'd give you a call. I know it's been a while but..."

A conversation opener that is sincere opens a positive conversation. If you have a history of difficulty with your co-communicator, you may need to be patient.

"What are you calling for?"

Before you respond, think: Sincerity.

Remove tone from your voice. Ignore the tone in his/her voice.

Clear your messages of inflammatory words/phrases like: always, never, fault, blame, hate, stupid, ridiculous, etc... in other words, avoid saying things that can back people into an emotional corner where they feel the need to defend or fight back.

"I know I may have not kept in touch the way you might have hoped. I just thought I would reach out today and chat. Would that be okay?"

Even after you've removed all tone, all words that could incite powerful and negative responses, it is still possible to be challenged if the history has been difficult. In most cases, people will respond to a human approach, a sincere voice and a kind word. However, they may not hear it the first few times you issue the message.

Think of a marriage in trouble. The couple is used to sparring at each other over issues they have never resolved, or they passive-aggressively snip at each other about surface things but there's a deeper divide. For example, Scott and Wendy constantly argue over clutter.

"Why do you have to always go on and on about the clutter? It's not just my stuff that's all over the place!" Scott is frustrated with hearing the same message over and over again. Just watch: Wendy will get upset by the word 'always'.

"I don't always go on and on, but I can't seem to walk anywhere in this house without tripping over your crap. When are you going to clean it up?!" Wendy can't stand stuff sitting around her house. It makes her feel like her home isn't respected. She's never really said that to Scott. She's only ever nagged him to clean it up.

Maybe she's not ready to talk about her deeper feelings or maybe she's unaware of it herself. Self-awareness is critical for understanding what we argue about and what upsets us. Nevertheless,

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