by Pietro Sirianni

Created on: March 10, 2009   Last Updated: March 11, 2009

My father was a good man. He worked hard and loved his family, and I have many fond memories of him. However discussions involving women, how to meet them, and what to do once I did meet them are not a part of those memories. I'm not sure why, it was just not discussed. So my education would be through real life trial and error, and if you ask me there is no better way to learn.

The first thing I learned was that there was always some type of sign. This great epiphany came after many nights of contemplation and re-living scenarios in my head with the benefit of hindsight. When a woman is interested in meeting you she will give you a sign, and nine times out of ten it will be very subtle: a stare that lingers just a 'bit longer than usual, a laugh that is louder than needed, or a toss of the hair. A man must be very observant and take care not to miss these subtle shifts in behavior. Of course there will be women who are not as demure and will simply approach you, but you must know what to do when she does and we will cover that later.

The next thing I learned and perhaps the most important: there is no such thing as a "pick-up" line. Strike the very concept from your head. I can not tell you how many times I have watched other men, and myself be immediately turned away as the result of a cheesy pick-up line. I will use this cliche because it holds true, honesty is the best policy. I learned that simply saying "Hello, my name is Pete. what's yours?" works best as an opener. It is honest, direct, and endearing in its childlike simplicity. Why waste all the time and energy on some poorly crafted line that will only send you whimpering away with your tail between your legs? If you have been honest and it turns out the girl is not interested thats fine, all you have done is politely made an introduction. You could walk away with your dignity in tact.

Once the introduction is over and there seems to be some mutual interest what comes next? I struggled with this in my younger years. So many ridiculous conversations that went nowhere. I found that asking a woman questions about what she likes and what she does for a living were the best way to go. After the small talk about the weather, and how often you frequent the establishment you happen to be at is out of the way, get to the heart of the matter. Ask questions like, "what's your favorite color?", "what's your favorite book?", "what exactly do you do at your job?" Listen carefully, give a nod once in a while, and make

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