by Elizabeth Blankenship

Created on: March 10, 2009   Last Updated: March 21, 2009

Does she like me and is just playing hard to get? Good question. Here are a few tips that every man looking for love must know about women that play hard to get:

Body language:

~ Her body language often tells you a lot more than her mouth does. If she likes you she will lean in towards you, place her hand suggestively on your arm or whisper in your ear. If she is playing hard to get she will pull away after teasing you with her body language. Test her, sit or stand near her and look her directly in the eyes. Speak very quietly and wait for her to move towards you. Look for direct eye contact.

Texting and phone numbers:

~ Once you have established through her body language that she is interested, just playing hard to get, it is time to get her number. You may have to ask her more than once. Reluctance doesn't necessarily mean she isn't interested. Girls don't want to seem too eager.

It's worth the time and effort. If she is playing hard to get you will get her number eventually. Don't go crazy. Sometimes reluctance means she's just not that into you. Check the digits right then and there, be sure you got the real deal. A fake means you better move on.

Texting and phone calls:

~ Call her! Women hate that whole 3, 5, 7 day wait thing. We want you to call us and show us you are interested. So, you call her and it takes her a few days to call you back. She is playing hard to get. She is waiting to see if you will call her again before she calls you. She wants to know you are into her. Same goes with texting. Women want you to chase them and show them that you are willing to work hard.

Date run-around:

~ You are calling and she is hard to pin down to a specific date or time. She is playing hard to get. She knows when she is free and could rearrange her schedule if she really wanted to. Keep at it. Be flexible. Start small. Instead of dinner shoot for coffee at her favorite coffee shop. Make it appealing for her. She won't be able to refuse you.

Reel her in:

~ You got her out on the date, now reel her in. Ask her how her day was and listen to her whole answer. Ask her specific questions that reflect back to information she has shared with you. Try to avoid the whole glazed over eye thing.

Lean into her and make lots of eye contact. The small details matter to women. Find common interests and build on those. Have her eating out of your hand by the end of the date.

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