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By:Crystal Tieszen

The Girlfriend vs. The Female Friend.

It is the age old question "Are they really just friends?" It is one of the oldest romantic movie themes in history, dating back before When Harry Met Sally until today in Juno. The line becomes blurred in many of these situations and not only to the parties observing the couples, but to the parties in question and the significant people that seem to wonder in and out of their lives.

With bestselling book He's Just Not That Into You, being turned into a movie, where the question is challenged down to whether there really are exceptions in these matters or not. I believe more and more women are slowly becoming aware of these observations. The truth is if he cares more about that friend then he does you, and he picks her over you so often, why is he not with her?

Is there more to situation that you cannot seem to penetrate? He meets her in a personal emotional level that the two of you have yet to reach or share. How do you keep yourself from feeling that you are never going to pass her? Is time a factor in this situation, they have shared a life for years and of course they really do have this emotional connection and you can see it, everyone else can see it.so why can't they?

"What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape, or form - is that men and women can't be friends, because the sex part always gets in the way," Harry in When Harry Met Sally.

At some point in time was there more to the relationship then there is now, this single thought makes all those unequivocal questions come flooding in from not only the female line of jealousy but the males as well. Basically until one or both of the parties decides to release there inhibitions and show there true feelings to each other, that it is more the platonic, women and men alike are forced to deal with the situation, if it is someone they are truly interested in. Possibly at some point you will be the one that over takes that place in their heart. So in the meantime how do you deal with feelings of him caring more deeply for her?

Make an effort: Be supportive and understanding of the situation; after all if you want the situation to be what it is you are hoping it is, you treat it as such. Treat it like a platonic relationship. If the thought of something beyond friendship with this girl, has crossed his mind it has most likely become a distant fading memory at this point. If you were to bring it back up, the way he looks at her, or the way

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