by Sunehra

Created on: March 06, 2009   Last Updated: March 07, 2009

First of all I would like to thank myself for choosing to write on this argumentative topic and then to helium for giving me the wonderful opportunity. I have done so many informal researches on this topic and now finally getting the opportunity to express the results in my writing.

I would say "no" not everybody deserves to be a parent. Parents are the teachers and guide to bringing up the future world builders and the people who can do it with the proper balance to present exceptional children deserves to be parents. By the word exceptional I do not mean to refer to extraordinry personalities like Mother Teresa, Neil Armstrong or George Harrison but I mean to say that human beings who possess all the humane qualities in them which are very natural for human beings to do.

Qualities such as humanity, kindness, generosity, benevolence are meant to be within all human beings. I had a Physics teacher who was very wise and enlightened. He once said that child rearing is one of the most critical of all arts that there is in the world.
Child rearing should be done in such a way that you have to make sure that you are not inflating your child with so much superior complex of being "I am the best" that he/she tends to feel that nobody else compares to him/her and neither with the inferior complex that he/she feels that they are beneath everyone and everyone else has the right to crush them under their feet.
Now coming to the real life examples I know of a female acquaintance who violently beats her daughters up for trivial reasons. Nobody takes it seriously or condemns it because she has been suffering from various psychological illnesses since childhood. Did she deserve to be a mother in the first place? I would say no because only a healthy mother can bring up healthy children. What is happening in this scenario is that her children are growing up in an unhealthy environment and consequently becoming psychological patients as well.
Then coming to another scenario I know of a very arrogant and ill-mannered child who is never reprimanded by his parents for all his bad demeanours e.g. being obstinate, behaving rudely and bullying others, throwing food on the floors each time he gets angry. His parents are always affectionate and tolerate all his deeds. Do this parents deserve to be parents? No because there is no credit in bringing up a terror and a bully who is a parasite to the society.
Therefore I think it is clear that there should always be an accurate balance in bringing up a child. Why don't we have this balance? Because we are steered by the traditional principles of the society which looks down at women who are incapable of giving birth and emphasises on being a parent rather than being a good parent. Until and unless the world changes its outlook there would be unqualified and incapable parents all around us who produce parasites.

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