by Jaibee

Created on: March 05, 2009

Jealousy stems from the feeling that the person that you love is in jeopardy of being loss to a rival. In order for a woman to make her man jealous, there must be someone else she can use to make him feel that he could lose her. Jealousy can be invoked by a present or non-present other person. In other words, the woman might talk about someone who found her attractive and asked her for dinner, etc. In the other instance, the woman and her man might be on a date and she purposely flirts with another man in the presence of her male companion. Although there may be a number of reasons that women give for trying to make their man jealous, ultimately, it is to hurt him; as we all know from experience, jealousy hurts. It has never felt good to anyone, but the person who generates it, and it will never feel good to the person on the other end of it. That being said, even though the woman wants to hurt the man, doesn't mean she wants to destroy him, although some women do. Oftentimes, she just wants to teach him a lesson of some sort or remind him of her value in their relationship. There are women who attempt to make a man jealous with the intention to cause him pain and/or discomfort for her benefit or to get even for feelings of jealous that he caused her in the past. Of course, if he realizes that she's intentionally hurt him, he will try to invoke jealousy in her and so on and so forth. However, she still feels justified, because he caused her pain first. Another woman might flirt until she gets the response that she seeks from her man. Once that response is obtained, she is satisfied to see the look of hurt her man's face or a change in his behavior that indicates he's upset because she talked to another male. She's assured that he does love and/or care for her. She is happy that he showed anger when she talked to another man. She goes on to sooth and caress him until he calms down and his ego is restored. She wanted him to be jealous with the express purpose of proving his love. From this, she gains feelings of empowerment, increased her self-respect, and feelings of importance in the relationship. Yet another woman may believe that it's necessary to steer up feeling of jealousy in her man so that he will not take her for granted. Thus she reminds him periodically that he could lose her if he's not careful. She want him to remember that she's still worth having and he shouldn't forget it. This is common and done for the purpose of being appreciated. Still there is the woman who makes her man jealous to introduce excitement into an otherwise dull relationship. She wants to get a rise of her sedate man or push his buttons. In such a relationship, the man is the strong silent type who rarely expresses feelings of love to his significant other. After having unsuccessfully trying to talk to him about her need to hear proclamations of love, the woman grows frustrated and seeks to find out on her own how he feels. She does this by making him jealous. All she wants is any reaction that shows he loves and appreciates her. As stated, women have a variety of reasons for wanting to make a man jealous, which are unique to her and the situation that she finds herself in; however, jealousy does by its nature cause pain, anger, hurt, and sadness; however, some women still believe that it is necessary to raise jealousy in their significant other.

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