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The most frequent cause of divorce is lack of trust. A lot of people will probably say that it is communication. Now don't get me wrong, I believe communication in a marriage is extremely important, but without trust a marriage will not survive.

Once trust in a marriage has been lost for what ever reason, whether it is infidelity, addiction or a myriad of other causes, it is very difficult to get it back. You can regain trust in the marriage but it does take effort and time. A large problem for couples today is that when things get difficult they give up. People don't realize that a marriage isn't about rose petals and champagne, it is about hard work and perseverance. People give up, they don't want to have to work hard at their marriage, because they feel they already work hard at everything else so why work hard at marriage, they want a break. They want something in their life to go smooth and because life isn't smooth they give up on the marriage.

Another cause for divorce is people go into marriage with the wrong attitude. They say to themselves and others that if it doesn't work out then they will just get divorced, it is their safety net for making a wrong decision. My husband and I decided after a few rocky years in our marriage that divorce wasn't an option. We might argue and have disagreements but at no time was divorce discussed. By doing this we removed the stress of worrying about the other person saying they wanted a divorce. Over the next few years, we actually learned to compromise and work through our differences and because of that we have become closer. Now this doesn't mean we don't disagree, we are two different people, with two different views, so there are disagreements. But we know in the end we will work through them, because we had already made the decision that divorce wasn't an option.

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