by Feed your head with a play by Pamela Olson

Created on: March 03, 2009

Is It A Crime I'm A Fool To Want You To share a kiss that Devil has known.

It's another Valentine's Day and Esther Howland was the first to produce commercial American valentines. In the 1840s, she sold the then large $5,000 in cards during her first year of business. By the 1950's when Ava Gardner left Frank, the result was Frank writing these love besotted lyrics.

I'M A FOOL TO WANT YOU

Our culture in movies, songs, romance novels, soap operas, and romance comedies teaches us that "falling in love" is the norm the implication being, that if it doesn't happen, or if that feeling goes away, something is wrong with you, your lover or your relationship.

I'M A FOOL TO WANT YOU

Researchers at University College London discovered that people in love have lower levels of serotonin and also, that neural circuits associated with the way we assess others are suppressed. These lower serotonin levels are the same as those found in people with obsessive-compulsive disorders. That explains why those in love obsess about their lover.

TO WANT A LOVE THAT CAN'T BE TRUE

When two people have sex, oxytocin is released, which helps bond their relationship. When it is released during orgasm, it creates an emotional bond - the more sex, the stronger the bond.

A LOVE THAT'S THERE FOR OTHERS TOO

Studies have repeatedly shown that passionate love fades quickly and is nearly gone starting as soon as two years and virtually gone in three years. The reason is that the chemicals responsible for "that lovin' feeling," the adrenaline, dopamine, norepinephrine, phenylethylamine, etc., dwindle.

I'M A FOOL TO HOLD YOU

According to Helen Fisher, Rutgers University anthropologist, together dopamine and norepinephrine produce elation, intense energy, sleeplessness, craving, loss of appetite and focused attention. She says, "The human body releases the cocktail of love rapture only when certain conditions are met and ... men more readily produce it than women, because of their more visual nature."

SUCH A FOOL TO HOLD YOU

Your partner doesn't change at all in your relationship. With time, it's just that you're now able to see them rationally, rather than through the blinding hormones of infatuation and passionate love. At this stage, the relationship is either strong enough to endure, or the relationship ends.

TO SEEK A KISS NOT MINE ALONE

Infidelity is common.

"I can see through all of your lies but still I miss you."

TO SHARE A KISS THAT DEVIL HAS KNOWN

It's natural to sometimes wonder if the person you are romantically

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