by Dawn Hawkins

Created on: March 02, 2009   Last Updated: March 03, 2009

Do you remember when you first looked across the room at him/her? You saw something amazing in that person before you ever spoke your first words to them. You then find a way to strike up a conversation with them and so your relationship begins. These are the most magical moments that you will encounter in the entire life of the relationship.

Somewhere along the line, that magic turns into something different. This is when the good things may begin to sink deep into the abyss of our memories. Why do relationships have to die though?

Life Gets In the Way

At the beginning of any relationship we tend to give it the most attention. We will even forgo other parts of our lives to spend time with our love. As time goes on, we begin to fall back into our routines and the companionship that we once had turns to dust. This is a very common problem but one that is inevitable.

Work can get frustrating, children come along and people age. This is just a short list of the life situations that create a current in our lives. They, more often than not, cause the ripple effect to occur and your relationship can find it's way to very rocky ground.

The Little Things

Doing little things to show your love to someone makes them feel special and important to you. These random acts can dissipate quickly once a relationships root takes hold. It is important to keep these types of actions going throughout the relationship. Otherwise, your partner may feel you no longer care about them as much as you once did.

Taking Each Other For Granted

Saying thank you to someone for doing something for us becomes obsolete. We let our manners fall by the wayside once we feel secure enough to let our defenses down. Saying thank you is not that hard, yet millions of people fail to do so when it comes to their relationships. We begin to assume that the other person is doing something because it is their duty rather than their choice. We might possibly do well to begin say those two little words more often. It can make all the difference in your relationship.

Boredom

After the initial feelings of flotation dissolve, our interest goes with it. Sometimes it may seem as though it were never there. It becomes a distant memory that you don't think of any longer. The fun things that you used to do have now turned into an average activity. This leads to boredom, which leads to the demise of a once great romance.

Expectations

Our expectations of what a relationship should be like over shadow reality. We tend to expect more of each other as time goes on. We are less likely to accept a person for who they are the more we get to know them. We begin to want changes in the other person. This leads to trouble down the road. One partner begins to feel that it won't matter what they do, it will never be good enough for the other. This leads to angry and hurt feelings. One partner may even find themselves cheating which is never easy on a relationship.

There are ways to get past these problems so that we can enjoy our relationship for a long time to come. Anything in life worth having doesn't come easy. It takes compromise, strength and determination to make it last. Sometimes we get too lazy. We get too lazy to work out the things that need to be worked out. We don't want to bother re-kindling the fire. It's much easier to let the fire completely burn out. This happens without even realizing it. Having a long lasting relationship with someone you love is worth the extra effort. Maybe it's time we begin to realize that.

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