by Keven Card

Created on: March 01, 2009

Sex & Love
The difference between sex and love can create unnecessary issues in a relationship. Sex is one of those things that is often mistaken for love when it is nothing more than a physical interaction between two people. Society says to us, that sex feels good and whatever makes us feel good we should love, which translates into, if our spouses make us feel good then we will love them. However, if they don't make us feel good then we don't love them. This is a set up for absolute failure in your relationship with your spouse; because if you are going to wait for your spouse to make you feel good then you are in for the shock of your life. Guess what your spouse is waiting for from you? You guessed it, they are waiting for you to make them feel good which they have set in their minds is also the definition of love, so everyone is waiting and no one is doing.

Whatever you do right now, do not mistake what I said; sex is not a bad thing, it is, in fact, a healthy part of a mature relationship. God created us to have an abundant desire to have sex for a particular reason; we must have babies in order for us to continue our existence. We were built with a purpose of being intimate and having sex as a physical, outwardly expression of our desire for one another. However, sex, as a stand-alone can never measure up to the requirements of truly loving someone. Now sex can be an expression of love in the sense that you are saying to your spouse "I love you enough that I am willing to give myself to you physically".

Ultimately, love actually falls in line with an overall theme, presented in the Bible, of the giver or servant. If you look at the explanation in 1 Corinthians carefully it refers to the giver more than once; Love cares more for others than for self; Isn't always "me first"; Love puts up with anything. These are just a few of the examples that "love" is about being a giver. An even more powerful example comes from God in John 3:16, which says: For God so loved the world that he gave his only son. He had his son to take the form of man, sent Him to us only to be sacrificed, and He did it all just because He loves us. What an amazing example of true and untarnished love.

You see love is about sacrificing our needs for the needs of the ones we love. Setting aside our own complaints about what we want from the people closest to us to give to them what they need from us instead. When we are able to truly walk in love an amazing thing will happen once this concept gets deep down on the inside. You'll find, that the happiness that you are looking for, comes from the act of giving, not from getting.

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