by Carrie Brandon

Created on: March 01, 2009

Quite simply NO. When you begin a relationship with someone new and you spend time with you begin to develop a level of trust. Maybe it takes months, maybe in some cases years and that trust should never be compromised. Cheating does just that. It breaks the level of trust you share , even if you don't know it's going on at the time. In a relationship you need honesty and trust for it to really work. And cheaters aren't honest people and they certainly aren't people you can trust... so what are you left with? Love perhaps but really sometimes love just isn't enough.

Cheating changes everything. Your whole relationship changes as a result and while your initial instinct may be to save the relationship and salvage what is left, when you really look at it you'll probably find that if your partner had so little respect for you and themselves to actually commit the act of cheating then the reality is they aren't worthy of having your love. They truly aren't. . It could be years before you find out they've cheated,even if its been a simple one night stand as opposed to a full blown affair it'll still cut like a knife to know that someone you loved has betrayed you on that level. Even if they sa the incident happened years previous and has never been repeated those feelings you feel when you find out won't be as easy to move on from. Those emotions will always be there. Sure they might not be ones you feel every day and sometimes you might be able to convince yourself it'll all work out and your happy but then suddenly those feelings of doubt , hurt and betrayal will creep back up on you and you'll be left in pieces once again. When you find out someone you love has cheated on you, no matter how small the altercation may have been it hurts. And it changes how you see them. And it's almost impossible to ever go back to how things where before it happened. Before you knew and before they messed up. Before they made a choice to break that band of trust of had. That trust is something you will NEVER get back. You can always try but deep down inside of you you'll constantly be aware that it happened and you'll constantly be waiting on it happening again. And I'm talking from experience.

In my eyes a cheater is someone who is weak and someone who compulsively lies. Perhaps they've found that the intensity of the relationship is too much, they feel pressured , scared of commitment and moving forward with you ..so they cheat. They cheat to "get it out of their systems" so they

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