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Personal space is important in the romantic relationships because it allows both parties to keep their individual ideas and identity. Without some degree of personal space, one partner will always feel trapped and unable to escape. Just as it is important for the couple to find an identity together, it is important for them to remain singular people able to live separate life's and enjoy a different set of activities. Relationships cannot grow without time spent together, however they will become a burden if no time is ever spent separately. Many people become insecure with the idea that the partner might move on from the relationship if they are not always together. The truth is, if you fear your partner leaving simply because there is separation than the relationship is not on solid ground. There can be no growth of new experiences it everything is done as a couple. Finding the proper balance between time together and time apart can be extremely difficult. Many people lose their self identity in relationships and do not know how to behave when they are by themselves.

Relationship dependent people become obsessed with spending time with their partner. They do not see that they must have unique interests in order to keep the spark alive in the relationship. After all, if you know everything about your partner and their day, why would you ever need to communicate with them? If there is no communication the relationship will fail. That is why it is important to encourage your partner to have interests outside the relationship. Even if it is in interest that you do not fully understand or appreciate your partner will find valuable that you offer encouragement for them to have enjoyment outside the relationship. Before entering any relationship people have individual interests. They pursued these interests to fill time but also because they enjoy the activities. That enjoyment does not die upon entry into a romantic relationship. Therefore, if they are only doing things that serve the relationship, they are sacrificing part of themselves and eventually resentment will follow.

If you lose yourself identity in relationship it can be harder or near impossible to recover should not relationship become a failure. You do not to lose valuable time simply because your partner is not secure enough to let you be yourself. If you hold the expectation that the only way you can be happy is with your partner you are putting tremendous pressure on that relationship. Sooner or later the pressure will cause division between the two of you. Once that division is developed a can actually take more energy than either partner will have to repair the damage. If your partner cannot except that you have different interest, this will not change with time. If you're willing to live someone else's life, best of lock. I strongly suspect that eventually you will lose the desire to be so isolated from the rest of the world. When this happens you will blame your partner, simply because they are the only person around to place the blame upon. You must be yourself at all times and in all relationships.

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