by Wendy Owen

Created on: February 27, 2009   Last Updated: February 28, 2009

Yes a father should have the same rights as the mother in terms of custody of the children. Nothing angers me more than those women who think that the father is not as an important role in a child's life as a mother is. I am a woman with three sons and I have seen first hand how divorce can hurt the children and then most women think that they can use the children as pawns in their little game of, " you please me or you suffer" that they play. Children need a father just as much as they need a mother and as a mother you would think that you would want your children to be happy. Put their happiness in front of your own, but most people are so wrapped up in trying to win some childish game they think they are playing to stop and see that the children need their father in their lives.

It has been a proved fact that children who do not have their fathers in their lives do not perform as well in school; and the prison system has more fatherless people incarcerated than people who had their fathers in their lives. A father has a very important role in a child's life. It is often said that the mother is the one who nurtures the child but I believe that is a role that is played by both parents equally. When it comes to teaching moral values a child tends to listen better to their father because the father in their eyes represents strength and pride.

I have a picture of my son outside talking to his son. My grandson had been acting up and so my son took him to the bench out on the deck and sat him down and was talking to him about his actions. I took the picture because I felt that it was a beautiful moment. My son had his talk with his son, and the child got up, went to play, and there was no more incident. This would not have happened with the child's mother. She would have raised her voice at the child, and he would have become emotional. My point is, there are things a child needs from their father, just like there are things a child needs from their mother.

Yes I believe that a man should have just as much custody rights as a woman. To hear people say that it depends on the man really upsets me because did it ever cross your mind to wonder about the mother? By believing that it depends on the father and making up a list of factors to weigh in is really doing nothing but living a double standard. I'm sorry but 90% of divorced women could not have chose child molesters or druggies, or abusive men as spouses to father their children. Give the men their rights.

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