by Dawn Hawkins

Created on: February 27, 2009   Last Updated: February 28, 2009

Americans are getting divorces at alarming rates. People get married two, three and sometimes more times in their lives. Few marriages will endure the toughest of times although we make a promise in our wedding vows to stick it out. It's enough to make your head spin. Why do so many marriages end in divorce?

The reasons that people divorce are various. They stopped loving each other or one spouse cheated on the other one. Maybe one person got bored with the relationship. There isn't just one easy answer for the reasons people get divorced. There is a way to answer why so many do though.

Couples no longer see fit to get through the struggles of life with the partner they chose to do that with. Divorce is a much easier answer. If things aren't going your way all you have to do is walk away and file for divorce. There is no incentive for a person to stay in a marriage when it comes to the legal side of it.

Marriage is often a struggle to get through. The honeymoon ends and real life begins. There are bills to be paid, children enter the picture and other people interfere. These are the times that truly show whether you are suited for the marriage role. Not just anyone should take the leap of faith in another human being that requires so much work.

Human beings are selfish. It is a part of their nature. Marriage, on the other hand, can't be selfish. In this type of relationship, you have to learn to give more than you take. This concept falls deaf on the ears of some people. If one person is doing all the giving and the other is doing all the taking, the relationship will suffer. Although there are certainly times that you will find yourself giving more than you take and vice versa, it should come out on equal ground in the end.

When a couple enters into a marriage, they should be prepared for every situation. Unfortunately, the starry-eyed feeling that most people have when they first meet eventually fades into the darkness. What is left is the "realness" which is sometimes too much to bear for some. It might be advisable for people not to get married until they have come down from their euphoric state. This will allow them to look at the relationship with a much clearer eye.

If you are getting married in a church, you often have to go through counseling with the pastor before hand. This is an excellent idea. A pastor may be able to point things out to you that you didn't think about before. He/she will be able to ask important questions that will show whether or not

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