by Stefani Christenot

Created on: February 27, 2009

I have two sisters, in fact we are all the same age. Yes, we are triplets. But what I want to share with you is what our relationship has been like for the past few years. In the beginning, we were all happy. But as we grew older, our innocence was lost, and we grew separate. And I was abused as a child as well. A teacher from my school had physically abused me several times without a witness. It tore me apart.

But as an adult, the same thing happened. But this time it was from one of my sisters. She herself abused me. It was too much for me to handle, after I had gotten over the teacher's abuse. I wasn't in the clear. I was still the stick that was stepped on and left to tend to my own wounds.

God has helped me through much of the pain. But as for my sisters, they are clueless as to my emotional well being. One who is or thinks she is in control when we were living together. But how to deal with two complete opposites?

And how do you deal with one who is abusive towards you? And how do you deal with the other, who isolates herself? It has taken milestones, but I tell you this- it's not a bed of roses with the sisters that I have. I am not here to bash on my sisters, but to tell you what I have had to deal with.

I think it first started when i dated my then boyfriend Mike. The sister I lived with was physically abusive to me and at times would not let me leave the house. My other sister was coming for a visit, and the sister I was living with would block the door. Once as I opened it, she started to choke me.

As startling as that was, my boyfriend stood there watching and didn't do a thing. He was baffled, and I guess didn't know what to do. This was something he unfortunately had to deal with. Mike and I did eventually get married, but what I want to focus on here is what two sisters have done to me: left me emotionally distraught.

It was to the point where I didn't want to live with either of them. Or not even get close to them. Still, I don't talk to my one sister who works as a nurse. But as for the other, she and have gone through stages of forgiving one another. I still wait for her to call me and ask me to forgive her for how abusive she was then. I wonder when that will happen.

What I can't imagine, dear reader how sisters can emotionally destroy one another when as kids we were perfectly happy. We were once a happy family. It is more now a dysfunctional family.

Sisters can manipulate, hurt, or at times turn their back on you. The years of emotional toil I have had they don't even know how isolated I was. Leaving myself alone in the bedroom I would cry, as while others were completely clueless. And some of my family are still clueless as to my emotional well being.

I must say, things have improved. Forgiveness has helped us to heal. But it will take years, or maybe only months to hear a phone ring or a door knock to hear someone else ask forgiveness. Patiently i wait for a better outcome. And in prayer, I hope the three of us again will be best friends.

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