by Dawn Hawkins

Created on: February 26, 2009   Last Updated: February 27, 2009

Marriage is a commitment meant to last a lifetime. Most people will marry for love, at least the first time around. The second time down the aisle will add a host of other reasons to tie the knot. A second timer is more aware of what it takes to make a marriage last and what it takes to break.

It might seem obvious that the first thing people get married for is love. This is often not the case and the marriage will very possibly turn to shambles. Let's take a look at the worst reasons for people to marry:

1. Pregnancy- People have sexual relationships long before they are ready to commit to a lifelong relationship. This often results in a little surprise, If you have found yourself in this position and are discussing how to move forward, please think it out carefully. If getting married wasn't an option before, it shouldn't be one now. Children most definitely need both parents in their lives. What they don't need is parents that are at each others throats all the time.

2. Getting out of your parents control- This is something that young people do without realizing it. You are desperate to get away from your parents rule so you find someone to "love". You speed the process up and decide to get married. You may think you are in love, but be sure that it isn't the idea of being away from your parents that you are in love with.

3. Deployment- Many of our young men and women have been getting deployed to war zones. The couple is in love and they want to make sure that the person they are leaving behind is taken care of if something happens to them. They jump in rather quickly to seal their love with a signature without realizing this means a lifelong commitment. Do not get married out of fear of what might happen.

4. Threats- One person is adamant that you walk down the aisle. The other one isn't so crazy about the concept. The person that wants to get married threatens to leave the relationship if a stronger commitment isn't made. If they feel that strongly about it, you should let them leave if you have doubts. Do not marry someone because you are afraid you will lose them.

5. Getting too drunk- This happens in Las Vegas a lot, I imagine. People go out to Vegas, start partying the night away and get this crazy idea. They run off to the nearest chapel and before they know it, they are waking up next to their husband/wife. Getting drunk should be done after you have said "I do" not before. Marriage is a serious issue. Unless you went to Vegas for the purpose of getting

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