by Lisa Shaver

Created on: February 25, 2009   Last Updated: February 26, 2009

A marriage where both partners are committed to one another and where each of you is willing to put in all the effort needed to make that marriage work can survive anything and everything thrown its way. Every marriage is going to be thrown obstacles they will have to overcome. Whether it being lying, cheating, loss of job, raising children or simply lack of communication that comes with becoming comfortable with one another and assuming you know what the other is thinking.

When you find out your partner has lied to you it lessens the bond the two you share. The trust in your relationship starts to slip. It makes you wonder if your partner is telling you the truth when you talk to him (or her). Trust in a marriage, or any relationship, is based on open and honest communication. It takes time to build the trust between partners but it only takes a second to destroy it.

Everybody lies at some point. Usually little small lies called white lies. These are lies husbands tell wives when what they are wearing doesn't look that great on them, but the husband does not want to hurt his wife by saying, "Honey you really look bad in that dress." White lies though harmless can also help to lessen the bond of trust in your marriage.

The next form of lie comes from omission. By not saying something does not mean you are not lying. If you are doing something you know your spouse would not approve of and you keep it from them, you are still lying. For instance your ex called and you talked to them for an hour or so and decided to go to lunch together, and you tell your partner you are going out to lunch, you did not lie, yes you did go our to lunch. However, you failed to mention that lunch was with an ex and, therefore, you are lying.

Out right lying is what will cause your partner to not trust you. As with the scenario above, if you tell your partner that you are going to lunch with Alicia, and in reality are going to lunch with your ex and your partner somehow finds out, (might want to have let Alicia in on the plan) thats when the trouble arises. You have not only gone to lunch with an ex that you knew was going to make your partner mad, but you lied about it. You broke the trust that took years to build and is going to just as long to rebuild, only this time its going to be harder.

Next time you think about lying to your spouse, think about all the work it took to regain their trust and think about all the work it will take again if you break that trust. Not to mention that

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