by Rich Huffstutler

Created on: February 25, 2009   Last Updated: February 26, 2009

You want the basics of good communication in a relationship. It is very easy. Men like just the facts. Women want details.

Take for example when a husband comes home from work, and the wife asks "How was your day?" The man says "Oh, it was good. I had a good day."

He then asks her, "How was your day?" She begins telling him all the details of her day." Well, after breakfast, I washed the dishes, and then called Susy on the phone, we talked for about an hour. Did you know her daughter is going to have a baby? They said if it's a boy they will name him Arnold after that actor guy, it it's a girl they are going to call her Mary after her grandmother. I then went to the store about noon, got some more T.V. dinners. They also had milk on sale so I got two gallons, ..." and she goes on about all the details of her day.

The man just wants to know if she had a good day, or a bad one. Thats all. He is tired and does not want a lot of details. He will get bored with the details very quickly, and shut her out after about 2 minutes.

The woman on the other hand has been home all day, and now her husband just walks through the door, and she wants time with him. She wants to know the detail of his day,She feels it is a part of what is important.

Who is right and who is wrong? Neither. We must learn to speak each others language. Women must learn when talking with a man, cut a lot of the details out. Just give him the short and sweet of it. Put everything into just a few sentences, and then let him ask more question if he wants more detail.

Men must learn to slow down, and fill in some of the color and detail about events. They like to hear reasons, and explanations. They like to know what led up to an event, and how it was resolved.

Make dinner time a good time to talk about the day, and what is going on.Women, don't give a lot of details. you will keep his attention more with facts. Men ask questions about what she is saying. It will make her day. It may make your night. Do not wait until you are climbing into bed to talk (Unless it's pillow talk.)

Now I will say that I do not know why us men can not hear you ladies when you ask us to take out the trash, but we can listen to a football game over three screaming kids and a vacuum cleaner, and not miss a play.

Ladies, when your mad at us, and we ask you "What's wrong?", and you say "You know whats wrong." Guess what we really don't know whats wrong, or we would not have asked "What's wrong?"

Guy's when you see her mad, and you ask

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