by Miranda Miller-Smith

Created on: February 24, 2009   Last Updated: February 26, 2009

When I first started dating my now fiance, over ten years ago, I found that I was being harassed by various friends and relatives about getting married. We took our time and got to know each other. We learned many lessons about life and love together. We both agreed there was no rush to get engaged.

I think that by waiting for so long, we both were very sure about getting married when the time came and the question was asked. I can honestly say I don't have any doubts. I know he is the right one for me, and I am very happy.

You shouldn't jump into marriage because it is a serious commitment, you deserve the best, and jumping into marriage isn't going to guarantee you will have the best marriage possible.

Secondly, times are tough for everyone. Weddings cost quite a bit of money, and divorce is not cheap either! Why rush into something you may not be completely sure of and throw so much of your hard earned cash down the drain?

Additionally, why would you want to put yourself through a bitter divorce?

If you wait and really get to know your potential spouse you can learn a lot about how they react to tough times, how they deal with conflict and stress, and another important issue of how does this person handle money?

Personally, I change a little every day. I might love pasta today, but be completely sick of it tomorrow. By waiting for so many years, I know I am not going to tire of the man I am going to marry. After ten and a half years, I have never grown tired of him. I am still as excited and giddy when I see him as I was the day we met.

By waiting, I learned that I could trust him completely. He has always been loyal and faithful to me. I believe we will always have that magic between us. The magic that certainty and trust can bring to a relationship. I learned that I need him to be me, I am serious when I say that after so long of dating, I know my life would suck without him.

I know that our relationship will stand up strong against any storms that we may face. After all of the drama we have encountered as boyfriend and girlfriend I feel positive we can handle anything as husband and wife!

By waiting for so long I got to know the person I am going to marry in ways that benefit our relationship, and for that I am grateful. I hope this article helps to provide insight on why you should wait and not rush into anything. If your love is strong now, let it mature and develop just a touch longer and then you will be amazed at the results. If you think it can't get better, just wait... True Love always improves like a fine wine that has been allowed to age properly.

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