by Dolly DeVonderland

Created on: February 24, 2009   Last Updated: February 27, 2009

Sensuality comes in many forms, finding what's comfortable for you will be a good guide of how to find the perfect sensual treat for your partner. Perhaps you'd find sharing a decadent slice of cake in matching silk pajamas to be one of the richest sensual moments you can imagine with your spouse, feeding each other bites of the cake between kisses and caresses. For others, an evening in handcuffs does the same. Different things are sensual to different people, knowing which senses your spouse is more aroused by is your secret to buying the perfect sexy gift. Are they visually oriented and enjoy seeing the two of you in a mirror? If they prefer touch, wouldn't satin sheets be lovely to roll around in? Senses are the basis of sensuality, any treats you give that enliven the senses will result in a very sensual thank-you session.

When thinking of wearable gifts like lingerie or loungewear, consider comfort as well as visual appeal. Natural fibers such as silk and cotton are much nicer to wear than synthetics because they breathe. Certainly a teddy may look like a hot item, but when it's itchy and uncomfortable it just wrecks the mood. Silky pajama pants and a ribbed cotton tank can be just as sexy, with a laid-back attitude born of comfort. Robes are very sensual in themselves, but a nice satin kimono styled one can make one feel like royalty. Making a day of being together in your robes can make for one memorable weekend.

Breakfast in bed is classic, but it can made into a sensual splendor if you spice it up just a little. Rather than heavy eggs and bagels, consider a fresh fruit salad of tropical treats like mango, papaya and pineapple. With a bit of toasted multigrain bread, your healthy breakfast will make sure you've both got a good start to your day together. If you'd like to share a bath, fragrant bath oils or salts in the tub can add a bit of scent to your scrub. Using a citrus scent can uplift and enliven, while fresh-baked aromas can bring in warmth and togetherness. Lavender has long been a favorite scent for lovers, as have roses. Scented candles can be a good way to bring in olfactory senses to your sensuality too. A few small votive candles in a dish can give your room a charming flicker.

If you're feeling really daring, there's always the adult shop. No longer the domain of dirty old men in their trench coats, the modern adult shop is more like a lingerie store with a little something extra. Their lingerie can range from costumes fit for a private dancer to men's' apparel like specialty underwear. Getting your mate a gift of you can be fun to wrap up in the wild costumes and get-ups, whether you prefer lace or leather. An adult novelty of some sort can lighten the mood, like a naughty-shaped lollipop snuck into a packed lunch. If you feel your relationship is solid enough to introduce a toy, giving it as a gift can be a fun way to bring up the idea. While I'd advise picking out the toy together, if your spouse is open-minded, they might just adore the idea of getting something like that from their loving mate.

Remember, the senses are the basis of sensuality, anything that enlivens your senses can enrich your sensuality. Decadent desserts to the scent of crisp freshly cut flowers, it's all about enjoyment. Finding new ways to enjoy your spouse can happen over breakfast or in the shower. Getting them a little present to share the delight they bring to you is a perfect way to spice things up- so don't be afraid to try something wild. Gift giving can be a great excuse to give someone something they'd never buy for themselves. Make sure you pick it with them in mind, because the thought is what really matters.

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