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I am not the average woman, but I also don't look like a supermodel. I have my flaws just like everyone else. I am a little on the short side, I have gained about ten pounds since I graduated from high school, and I don't dress to the nines on a normal day. I am attractive and desirable. I have men asking for my digits on a regular basis. It is not because of my sex appeal, or the clothes I wear. It is because I possess a certain confidence. I am sure of myself, I love to laugh, I am kind and witty. I could toot my own horn all day long, but that is not the point of this article.

The truth is the average woman can attract a man who will love and honor you and treat you like the goddess you really are! Now, it is true that some men are very hung up on looks. Men are visual creatures, and there are some guys who honestly believe they are above dating your average Jane. The reality is these guys who are into looks only are most likely flawed in an emotional sense.

The normal man isn't really hung up on looks. These guys know that at some point, beauty fades. Some men actually realize that inner beauty is much more important than what you have got going on outside. After talking to some guy friends I learned that confidence is so much sexier than we realize. Guys love it when women are happy with who they are, and appreciate their own beauty. What most of us consider to be flaws are what makes us so unique and desirable. As an example, I think my butt is huge, but my fiance thinks my rear end is perfect. What I think I could and should change about myself physically is what he finds to be incredibly sexy.

So, my physical 'imperfections' are a huge turn on to fiance. Before I was with my fiance I was dating a guy who is in a band. He was hung up on my looks, and he treated me like a possession. He would ask if I was coming to his show, not because he wanted me there and couldn't wait to see me, but because I made him look better. If I couldn't be there I knew he would call someone else and within a few minutes he would have a hot young groupie awaiting him in the crowd. After months of his selfishness and unfaithful habits I finally realized I could do better and I deserved better. I should be loved for me and not how pretty I am.

When I had healed from the break up and was ready to date again, I met someone who was not as attractive as the ex-boyfriend, but he was a lot nicer. He called me to say hi, he sent me flowers, he wrote me poems. He treated me like gold. I learned a lesson, sure he wasn't gorgeous, but he knew how to treat a woman.

When I met my fiance, I was slightly on edge, he is a spectacular man. He is tall, in great shape, he could be a swimsuit model. With a man who looks as great as he does it is easy to assume he is a jerk. However, he is very kind and considerate. He was afraid of me too. His last girlfriend was beautiful, but she also cheated on him and ultimately broke his heart.

When he realized I was not going to damage him as she did, he couldn't help but fall in love with me. He treats me with respect, he is always looking out for my best interest, and he practically worships me. I am lucky, and I landed this man without supermodel looks. My wit, humor, inner beauty and soul spoke volumes to him. I really am a goddess in his eyes.

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