by M. F. Carbo

Created on: February 23, 2009

I am the mother of a son and two daughters. Of course, the personality of a child makes a huge difference of how a child communicates with their parents. In my experience, my son showed his love or unhappiness by his actions. My oldest daughter, on the other hand, is more vocal but she has a short fuse and when she is unhappy she makes sure everyone in the house is unhappy too. My oldest daughter will argue the point like a Philadelphia lawyer even though she knows she does wrong. When I ask my son to do something, like chores, hell go do it and usually wont complain too much. My daughter prefers to argue why she has to do everything and if she does do the chore what will she get in return. When I try to explain why her attitude isn't appropriate she holds her hands over her ears and sings really loudly if she thinks she wont like what Im about to say. How can you communicate with someone who has their hands over their ears? You can't. She is extremely dramatic to the point she could win an Oscar for her acting because she can make the tears fall from her eyes faster than I've ever seen. They also stop at a moments notice when she gets what she wants. If you ask her to repeat herself her voice rises with a sarcastic tone whereas my son wouldn't make such a big deal about having to repeat himself. I also find that my daughter takes everything I say to heart even though she usually misconstrues what I'm actually saying to her. She also likes to put words in my mouth and claims that I said things that I know good and well that I did not and would not say to her.

My mother had always told me that she found boys easier to raise than girls. I would have begged to differ with her when my son was a toddler because he was more destructive and would run away from me while I would run frantically behind him hollering his name to come back . Little did I know then but he would outgrow this with time. My daughter at that same age would scream at the top of her lungs over anything and everything. Thinking she would outgrow this I patiently waited and that time hasn't come yet. She is very competitive with her younger sister who is only two years old for our constant attention. My youngest child, however, is very sweet natured and hopefully my opinion of the difficulty of raising boys and girls will change as she grows up. But as of now I still believe that boys overall are easier to communicate with than girls.

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