by Tara Seaks

Created on: February 20, 2009

Let us begin with a scenario: You meet a woman under coincidental circumstances and fall head over heels in love. The two of you get an apartment together, develop a healthy lifestyle, and have a mutual dream of marriage and children. Some problems arise and, like the harmonious couple you are, you work through them with ease. One day, three or four years later, things have gotten to an all-time low, the issues seem unresolvable, and the relationship comes to a screeching halt. So, what now?

It is inevitable for pain to follow one's heart for a long while after a break-up. The longer the relationship lasts, the harder it will be to move forward after all is said and done. The majority of the time, it is too difficult for partners to remain friends immediately after the split. One partner has usually become a member of the "dumpee club" and is going through too much hurt to have a healthy friendship with the other.

This is okay, though! All hope is not lost!

After some time of focusing on oneself and embracing the changes in life, the dwelling feelings of hurt disintegrate entirely. What do you make of those three or four years now? Can you simply let go of the bond you created with your ex-lover, or do you find yourself missing the joyful times of friendship within your romantic relationship? Would you rather keep the memories or start a new chapter with this person?

Through this writer's personal experience, it is not always so easy to let go completely, especially if you had a lot of common interests with the lover. Surely, it varies from relationship to relationship. That being said, certain ex-partners can make the closest friends. They know all the nitty gritty flaws from your past experiences, which makes them the perfect go-to women for relationship advice. As long as both parties have moved on, the old lovers will benefit in numerous ways from their new-found friendship.

If one attempts to speak with the ex, and arguments ensue over the past, There's no reason to be discouraged. Working through these issues is crucial to transforming the connection into one of deep friendship. With a little dedication and love, the bond will grow and strengthen to unbelievable lengths. There is no better feeling than mending the past and having it create a new future.

So, is it possible to have a healthy lesbian friendship after the break-up? This writer says, "Yes!"

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