by Rosana Modugno

Created on: February 19, 2009   Last Updated: February 27, 2009

When you break up with someone or someone breaks up with you, it hurts. You can pretend it doesn't and act strong on the outside but we all know how it feels because everyone has been there at some point in their lives, so no, you are not alone in how you feel. You can ask anyone you know and they will tell you they too have had failed relationship.
The first thing you need to do is talk to someone about your feelings. It could be a therapist or a best friend or family member. The more you share, the more pain you will let go and the quicker you can begin your recovery. You will recover from this. Even though it seems like all is lost and the world seems gloomier, it always does when something bad happens in your world but remember, it's not just your world.

We tend to close ourselves off inside our own bubble and we forget those that love us when we are in trouble. We focus so much on what we are doing and how we feel, that we don't take into consideration those that are hurting right along with us. Don't you hurt when someone you love is in pain as well? The same goes for your friends and family that love you. They don't want to see you suffer. They want you to be happy, so of course your pain is theirs too.
There really is no reason for suicide because the victims are always the ones left behind to pick up the pieces. It's never the actual person who committed suicide that hurts. His pain is gone but along with it, his future, his dreams, his goals, his chances and hopes, along with the most precious gift of all, his life. You can't get that back. Once it's done, you are gone forever. There will be no second chance at living and don't we all deserve that? Of course we do.
You are not a bad person if you are considering suicide, nor are you a bad person for the failed love, we all fail and we all lose. We are not perfect and will never be. You are desperate when you are thinking of ending your pain this way, and you are not seeing yourself the way others see you. It's hard looking at who you are from the outside as others see you, actually impossible. But others can and you should take a little time out for yourself to find that one thing in you that you love. Everyone has something they love or just like about themselves. Take that time to see it within yourself, take the time to remember your dreams and hopes and go for it. This is your second chance to live, to change, and to evolve into a better person because there is someone for everyone and you will get your second chance at love especially when you least expect it.
Start your new day today. Circle that calendar and love yourself because you are here for a reason and the world can be a better place with you in it. You may even save a life one day telling your own story. Share that with the world. Maybe you are a hero to someone right now or will be a hero to someone in the future. Give yourself another chance at life and find out because we all need heroes.

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