by Annaleise Getley

Created on: February 19, 2009

One of the biggest issues we come up against when attempting to solve a problem in our lives is in fact attempting to identify the person, or persons in which to pass on the blame. As Humans it is in our nature to seek out an explanation for the things that come up in our life that do not seem to go the way we would've planned. The problem with needing answers and explanations is that often, they are not available to us and when we cannot justify such situations we satisfy our needs via turning our quest for answers into a quest to blame. In essence, you could say that since it is your life, and you are the only one who has control over it, everything that happens in your life is your own fault. That you are the only one to blame for what happens to you! But thats no fun, and it certainly doesn't make you feel any better nor does it enable you to get past the situation. No, when it comes to blame, yourself is certainly not an answer.... I mean think of all the other possibilities, there is almost a chain of locations you could place your blame. Your parents, your siblings, your friends, your partner, your neighbours, your boss, your workmates, the train driver, the grocer, the random guy at the bus stop - there are literally billions of people out there just waiting for you to blame them for something they had absolutely nothing to do with.... but lets not forget the biggest of all players in the blame game.... my personal favorite GOD!

Yes for those 80% of us who do believe in God in one form or the other, this is by far the easiest of choices when it comes to blaming someone. He/she can't rebuke your claims that it was his/her fault, he/she can't defend himself/herself, nor can he/she come face to face with you and show you first hand that it wasn't his/her fault. The only problem is, and now you may not know this... Blame is a lesser form of revenge. We are told that to seek revenge is to be unjust, revenge sees us stoop to the level of those who we are hunting down. Blame, however is much more civilized and accepted. In fact blame in most places I look almost seems to be necessary for the world to run smoothly and here lies the problem. If a situation in your life is genuinely the result of someone else and you confront that person about it, you shall receive one of two outcomes. 1. They will admit it was there fault and accept the blame you give them, or 2. They will deny it happened, by which you will blame them anyway but receive no comfort for because

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