by Chrystina Trulove-Reyes

Created on: February 19, 2009   Last Updated: February 21, 2009

Almost everyone has an ex. There were reasons that you and your ex got together. Attraction, lust, interest, or a sharing of the minds. Something put you two together. Chances are, even though things did not work out, that attraction is still there. Or you would not want to remain friends. In all reality, it is possible to remain friends after being so much more, but it is not recommended.

You are still attracted

The fact that people wish to leave their relationship on good terms is a good rule to live by. However, being friends, seeing each other on a regular basis, is asking for trouble. Chances are that one, if not both, of you, still feel some form of attraction toward the other.

Seeing each other would be tempting fate. All it takes is pushing the common sense aside that one time. Then you are either back in the relationship you want out of, or you are tearing yourself up for being "weak". Neither choice is particularly appealing.

Moving on

Other problems could arise from the ex-lover friendship when both parties move on. There has yet to be an accounting where the new partner has not managed to pick on to something between ex-lovers. It is almost like they can notice the pheromones or something.

If you spend time regularly with the ex, chances of your new partner leaving increase. Even though there might be nothing between you and your ex now, your new partner still senses something. Most of the population will not talk about past romances, which leaves your new partner in the dark. Some partners are afraid that the ex will "own" a part of you that the new partner can never claim.

Just under half of people in relationships will cheat on their partners. That is in their lifetime. Most people learn from cheating and usually will not commit the same offense twice. However, others enjoy that little chance that they could be caught. They love having multiple sources of entertainment.

Sadly if your new romance has been cheated on, they will be wary of being cheated on in the future. You might as well say goodbye to your ex-lover friendship at that point.

Rehashing

Eventually, in the friendship, you or your ex will bring up the past. This is never pretty and happens in almost every ex-lover friendship. For some reason, they will want answers. Or maybe you do. Either way, the past is brought up and suddenly you are forced to either rehash it, or lose the friendship. Losing the friendship will be like breaking up a second time. It is never pretty.

Reforming the relationship

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