by Carona Micheal Davis

Created on: February 18, 2009   Last Updated: February 22, 2009

Before you begin to read this article you must first ask yourself, "Is a married man that falls in love outside of the marriage in love with his wife in the first place?"

Love is as simple as it is spelled. It is the finders and holders of this rare commodity who is complex. For example, there is a hit television show that comes on and I won't name any names but it is basically about a spouse or lover that hires a detective/camera crew to find out if a spouse is cheating (you know the show that I'm talking about). It never fails that when a spouse is caught on film cheating and the sobbing wife or husband asks, "Why did you do this?", the answer is almost always "Because you didn't pay me any attention or, "It's complicated!". Yes, dear readers it has become a COMPLICATED situation. If you are such a complicated person then why get into a marriage which would complicate things anymore?

Sometimes human beings can be vein creatures as we all know. We want, what we want, who we want and when we want it and this is a recipe for disaster when part of a marriage. Men adore woman that look up to them and is attentive to them and the majority of the time it is more of this that they are attracted to than the actual person them self especially, if there are children involved and the wife does not have the time that she use to have to spoon over her husband and he is not first priority anymore. When someone steps into the picture that has this time to give the attention and recognition that he wants then that is all that it takes. Mind you, it is no fault of the wife at all(unless she is purposely detaching herself emotionally), it is all about that ego I was talking about before that makes individuals look for relief and praise elsewhere.

We can safely say that even if the spouse was ignoring her husband on a regular bases that the best thing for him to do would be to let her know what is going on and how he is feeling but, why go through all the trouble when there is someone else who is waiting for him and is at his beck and call. He could keep his family for the time being and have the extra curricular activities on the side. Talk about having your cake and eating to.

Tell tale signs a man may be falling in love elsewhere:

1) He is inattentive to you.

2) When he is home he is only home physically.

3) Always working late out of the blue.

4) Emotional detachment.

5) Reluctant to make future commitments.

6) Sex is less passionate.

7) No interest in the home or family as a whole.

When speaking of love we must remember that it is not love that is complicated but it's inhabitants, and if we ever find ourselves on this side of the tracks then let it be known that people are free to make choices and no one is ever trapped. In the long run it is better for everyone to separate than to find out a spouse is in love with someone else and has been stringing the marriage along the whole time.

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