by Carona Micheal Davis

Created on: February 18, 2009

The question of the decade is why are so many marriages ending in divorce? One is led to believe that the changing times have an enormous amount to do with this situation. Times were a bit simpler, calmer and more family oriented back in the '40's,50's and 60's but, now we have media, children being born of wedlock and many other circumstances that give praise or even help entice the idea of divorce. Individuals are not as conscience of themselves as they use to be.

As a society we must acknowledge the seriousness of our actions as a whole. We are not reminded of the beauty, responsibility and benefits of a healthy marriage until it is to late and the marriage is over. Divorce which use to be unheard of is now common practice. Couples seem to live in the moment and not think about the long term commitments of a marriage. In the media (music, movies, music) divorce or being single is seen as more fun in comparison to marriage.

Past requirements that would close to ensure a healthy marriage included,

- meeting the parents

- economic stability

- social stability

- family values

- planning

Today these things are nothing but a memory. People are making the decision to get married with no type of value or plan in mind. Individuals may elope with their significant other in order to escape an interaction between parents and the other person for fear of them not liking them. Teens and young adults get married on a whim and not put any thought to monetary stability and looking at our youth today how would they ever go into a marriage and maintain a healthy family life when they did not come form one themselves and seek the attention needed to get them through a healthy relationship.

We are so busy trying to make ourselves happy, make money and "get ahead", that there is no room for anyone else. We must accept that so many marriages end in divorce is because of the drastic changes in our society. For example, it would be next to impossible to see an actor or actress not have there love or marriage life plastered all over the television and news papers. They are together one week and divorced the next moving on to the next prospect. This is embedded in us as a society as being the "norm" or the joke of the day.

Parents are getting younger which is also contributing to the divorce rate. We have heard of children raising children many times. Young people are not of responsible age and are growing up without the values that their parents were brought up with. Even though we cannot personally oversee and change the climbing divorce rate, we could ensure that our children and family are those of us who has an understanding of family value and standing while teaching them that marriage while romantic, fun and hopeful is still work and to treat it as such.

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