by Renee Morgan

Created on: February 16, 2009

In my family, the closeness of the sibling depended how the wind blew. In a household with four girls and one boy, the closeness was forever changing. However, I do think that factors, such as age, which plays a part in which siblings were close. There is a six-year span between me and the oldest sister, a two-year span between us three in the middle and an eight-year span between my brother and the youngest girl. With these age differences, us three in the middle were slightly closer to each other. The oldest never really wanted to be close to any of us, because she was raised spoiled and as an only child. The baby girl some how would not feel comfortable with us because she was raised with cousins who treated her as though she was they sister.

As small children, my grandparents in a different state raised my oldest sister. Therefore, in the beginning it was three girls and one boy. As small children, none of us was extremely close because of our different like of things in live. I did not care for my brother much because he was my mothers pet and for eight years, he was the youngest. This was strange because I was my fathers pet and did not care for being around my mom much. My sister in between my brother and I was neutral. She had her own set of friends and was fine with what ever. There were things that we had to do as siblings, but as soon as we could part each other's company the happier, we were.

When my eldest sister moved in with us, my middle sister became closer to her and my brother and I was still neutral. After my mother passed away my other grandmother, take in the baby girl who was only 16 months. By the time she was ready for school my grandmother sent her back to me. My brother and I became extremely close and the middle sister and the oldest did the same. As we begun to learn each other the tables turned again. The oldest sister and my brother became extremely close and the middle sister and I became overwhelming close.

Now as adults two sibling stay in one state, two in other and me in other. But we all calls each other least once a week but no one has the closeness of that of my middle sister and I. she and I are going to see each other faces at least four times a year. When we have our outings we invites everyone, but she and I are the only ones who will show.

Over the years, I have learnt that it is not a matter of gender with sibling. The closeness of sibling depends on the circle they travel and the events that happen. The closeness of siblings depends on the throw of the dice or the turn of the table. There is no law, which says the girls have to be close to only the girls and the boys the same. The closeness of siblings has the factors of age, gender and life events.

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