by Z. Blake

Created on: February 15, 2009

How to make yourself look and feel more confident
We live in an age where the confident and purposeful achieve and the self conscious and unmotivated people fall behind. Today everyone strives to be more confident in themselves. We all know that person who is so comfortable in their own skin that they practically radiate confidence. We all want to be that woman or man who everyone likes and who walks around like they haven't a care in the world. The question is how? How does one go about looking and feeling more confident? If you're wondering exactly this then read on and hopefully my tips will help!

WITHIN

First and foremost you have to learn to love yourself and have faith in your own abilities and choices. Once you feel confident inside the rest will follow naturally. Remember if you don't believe it, no one will- your perception of yourself is how others will perceive you!

To build inner confidence there are a number of things you can do. One I highly recommend is changing the way your subconscious mind thinks. This is not as hard as it sounds. We think negative and derogatory thoughts about ourselves without noticing e.g. How could I be so stupid, I can't do that, or I hate my hair. If your mind is working like this you have lost before you have even begun!

Take some quite time out every day close your eyes and relax (or better yet look in a mirror) and repeat positive affirmations to yourself over and over e.g. I am confident, I am happy, I am attractive, I am likeable, etc. etc. Personalise these affirmations to acknowledge your strong points and give you a boost about your insecurities.

Another good idea is too make a list of all the things you like about yourself and add to it and revisit it every day! You will find that the more you add the more you can think of.

A final suggestion is to write a short speech about your strengths, achievements and ambitions and goals. And say it out loud to the mirror.

APPEARANCE

I would love to tell you it doesn't matter how you look, but in some ways it does. I am not telling you that you wont be liked if you don't doll yourself up, that is not true! However, by making a little effort with your appearance you will feel more confident in yourself. Some people just like to look their best and if your one of them then go for it!

If you don't like to wear make up you don't like to gel your hair up then by all means don't but if you feel happier about your looks by doing these things then do them every day!

You should always feel

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