by Patricia Watson

Created on: February 14, 2009

Family used to be defined as: Father, mother, and 2.2 kids. Today, we are seeing many new definitions arise.

There are single parent families, same partner families, older siblings raising younger brothers and sisters. In each scenario, the secret to keeping a family strong and bonded is to teach values.

It is a fine line to walk for parents. You have to be careful that you aren't forcing your values and beliefs on other family members. This can cause division and a lot of heartache.

Let's look at some traditional family values and ways to instill them in your children, without being a dictator.

*Religion*

Church attendance is one way to promote morals and values in your children. When your children are younger, there won't be too much opposition in attending. That might change as they get older and start to form their own opinion.

Never force an older child to adhere to your religious philosophy. They will look to you for guidance, while seeking their own path of worship.

Stay strong to your beliefs and your children will learn the value of faith from you.

*Togetherness*

Spending time together as a family is more than just watching TV. Plan a few days each month and do something outside the home. Take everyone on a picnic or go to the movies. Whatever you choose as your family activity, it will strengthen the bonds.

*Love*

There is nothing that can brighten up a child's day more, than hearing a parent say: "I love you". Express your feelings in a positive way inside your family dynamic. Your values will naturally transfer to you children, if you present them in a loving and non-threatening way.

When there are never any positive emotions shown, family members will just drift apart. Each member needs to know they have love, protection, and companionship inside their home.

Children, who are raised in a warm and loving environment, are less likely to get into trouble on the outside. It is a natural thing to seek love and acceptance. If a family member feels rejected, they might look in the wrong places to find it.

Each family will have their own set of values and beliefs. It is possible to pass these along to your children, without being forceful.

The successful family will love together, play together, cry together and generally enjoy each others company. Inside this wonderful and sharing environment, your values will naturally attach themselves.

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