by Cyn Lee

Created on: February 14, 2009   Last Updated: February 16, 2012

Saying "I Love You," is important because those three words seal the deal. When I Love You, is said to children, it helps mold a lifetime of security and confidence for when they confront love. Telling your children you love them spares them the wonder and insecurity of feeling unloved. Although everyone feels unloved now and then. Which brings us back to those three very special words, I Love You... and why it is very important to say as often as felt.

When you tell a parent you love them, they feel better about themselves. All the punishments and verbal threats it took raising you, your brothers and sisters was not in vain.  Loved parents feel a sense of accomplishment.  My Mom says knowing I love her is more a feeling of relief.  Relief that she survived our childhood with her sanity intact. Relief that all five of my siblings became fairly well adjusted adults. I tell her I love her often. Sometimes because she needs to hear it, other times I need to say it.  What ever the reason, saying I love you is an electrifying form of communication occurring between people.

Telling that special someone you love them is a big move. You feel deeply for this person you've been getting to know for awhile. Within weeks, they say I love you with ease. You hesitate, say thank-you.  Months go by, still those three words won't come out.  Now you're pondering why.  Do you feel the love? Do you want to tell this person how much you feel for them? Do you want to share emotion? "I Love You," is whispered in your ear one last time. "Me too," you respond. You're getting close.  For some, saying I Love YOU is hard.

Unfortunately many people never get to say I love you. They waited, they hesitated. They lost out. Maybe they thought way too long and hard, procrastinating away the best feeling life has to offer. Why? People and relationships die. Life ends. There will definitely be days when you can NOT say I love you, as there will be days when they can not hear your words.

Feeling love is easy. Having the confidence to say it, a tad overwhelming for some. If that is the case, and you're not the lovey- dovey type. Then you had better be really good at showing love. Be prepared to whip out the cash or credit card on call. Make sure those massaging hands are available 24/7. Don't say I love you enough? It'll cost you.

As a woman I can tell you, when I am told I love you a few times a day, I'm happy and content within. There's no need for extravagant flowers, gold or diamonds. I have all the fortune needed to knock my socks off.  When I awake every morning I hear the words, I love you. The same words three words I hear every night as I fall asleep with a smile.

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