by James Dubreze

Created on: February 14, 2009   Last Updated: March 10, 2009

Just because a woman has given birth to a child does not makes her fit to be a mother. To be a mother incorporates the ability to care for the child. Meaning, the mother must be able to nourish, educate, clothe and shelter her child. A woman, who is worthy to be a mother, understands that her child is her first priority and by that conducts herself in a manner that shows discipline in that respect.

There are many women who have claimed to be a mother because they have given birth to a child and yet they don't understand the significance of the letter "M" in motherhood. Those women belong in the category of other-hood but not motherhood. They are careless, useless, senseless and more importantly dangerous. They use pregnancy as a mean to acquire wealth, and think the more children they have, the more help they'll receive from the government. They make welfare, which stands for support for the disadvantage, seems advantageous and I'm not referring to any particular race. This is a reference to all uncaring mothers who takes a passive attitude towards motherhood.

A woman who shows empathy and love, and cares for a child gives that child something to hold on to. And that something is "great memories." Memories are what a child lives for; it's the exact thing that can break or make a child. You have heard the president talk about memories. He has written a book dedicated to the memory of his father. The memory that he and his father shared were important to him. His father was the role model in his life the person that he looks up to. As children, we all need that role model in our lives.

What Oprah has done in Africa is not for fame. Oprah understands what it like is to be hungry and have no one to look up to. I will not attempt to elaborate on why Oprah has no children for it's a personal matter that should only be address to her. However, I personally think that it's illogical for one to think that Oprah fears that she could not meet her own standards because of her work and high profile. If a mother with a regular job can hire a nanny to look after her child while she's at work, I honestly don't see how Oprah's job would have interfered with her being a mother. Since she has enough money to hire more than enough nannies, how could her high profile be interfere with her ability to mother?

Oprah Winfrey has founded a new all-girl leadership academy in South Africa which cost $40 million to construct. It is what one does with the money he/she possesses that makes a

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