by Jill Edwards

Created on: February 13, 2009

Tolerance and communication are two little words with an enormous amount of meaning. These two words are the building blocks of a good marriage. To truly be prepared for the wonderful years of a successful marriage you must start out with tolerance. It is very important for both of you to remember that you have each lived your whole lives a certain way. That way, for each of you, has been being brought up by your parents and families where values in life are held in a very unique way. A way that only each of you know and have lived by.

The importance of keeping the house organized and living by a very set structure may be of the utmost importance to one, and rank very low on the scale of priorities to the other. We must all go into a marriage realizing that we must be tolerant of each other's way of living, because that it what a marriage is. Living, living a new life with a new family. A start over of everything that you know and were taught since the day that you were born. You must both be tolerant of the changes to come over the next few years, for they take time.

Communication is also a key part in preparation of marriage. If you do not communicate what is important to each other how will the other know? You may not be able to stand the dishes being left in the sink over night, while your new spouse can't stand you leaving the t.v. on all night while you both sleep. These may seem like small things to think about at first, but they quickly become the larger problems that plague and annoy you both over time. The only way to be able to come to a happy way of living together, that does not eat at you, is to communicate these issues as soon as they arise. Keeping the little things bottled up will eventually make you blow up at each other if you don't express them.

Change is something that is going to have to happen. You need to both tell each other what the important things are, and be willing to compromise. Remember that you are starting a new life with your very own start of a new family, and together you can make up your own way of how to do things. Change takes time and if you communicate your feelings and stay tolerant of each other's different way of doing things, then there is nothing that you can't accomplish together. You will both feel appreciated and respected. Remember that marriage is a two way street and the first couple of years are the hardest because you are both having to learn to live a different way than you did before. The unique way that you both created together.

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