by Jon Crosby

Created on: February 12, 2009

At nearly 60, I am still learning important lessons from my involvement in martial arts. At first, it was a competitive thing, very mechanical. I sought to learn effective methods to block, punch, strike, and kick, primarily for tournament competition and self-defense application.

As I continued to learn (and martial arts study is a life long learning process), I came to the realization that martial arts study was more, much more, than winning tournaments or incapacitating an attacker on the street. I learned that a true martial artist, with many years of study and consistent practice, can develop the ability to go within oneself - to develop an inner spirit and sense of calm that can have a far-reaching, positive affect on almost all aspects of life.

In addition to the sense of accomplishment and pride that evolves from achievement in the martial arts, many devoted practitioners become very humble. They have no need to impress, and no need to prove themselves in a competitive or combative situation. In fact, many practitioners, especially those who have achieved master level, would go far beyond the norm to avoid a potential confrontation. It is not that they necessarily fear an adversary, it is more that they fear the potential ramifications that would surely result if they applied their great knowledge and skill.

While I am no master, I do have black belts in three martial arts. Like my mentors, I have no desire to prove what I can do. I am humble, and I always try to show others the respect and dignity that I hope to receive. I also enjoy the recognition of being a non-threatening, peaceful person, who exudes compassion for others. Unfortunately, this demeanor can be a heavy burden, especially when it comes to dealing with bullies, egotists, and generally evil people. Quite often I find it's a balancing act between continuously attempting to employ tact and diplomacy, when it seems the situation warrants a good, old fashioned, butt whipping.

In reality, resorting to fighting should only be for purposes of self-defense, and the legal ramifications of applying one's documented skill will surely be evaluated in terms of it's necessity and appropriateness.

I have benefited greatly from my study of the martial arts. While I am proud of the knowledge and skills I have developed, I am equally proud of the fact that I have always shown restraint when faced with potential confrontations, and have earned the image more of the gentle warrior than the ready combatant. Indeed, my life lessons from the martial arts have helped mold me as a human being. I am a better person as a result.

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